Thursday, February 15, 2018

Utah School to Kids: Fuck Consent

This story straight up made me go "exsqueeze me??"

Utah mom upset after school tells 6th graders they can’t say no when asked to dance

I hate this headline, by the way, because it makes it seem like the news is that a mom is upset, rather than everyone should be upset because this is FUCKED UP.

Richard took her concerns to the school principal. 
“He basically just said they’ve had this dance set up this way for a long time and they’ve never had any concern before,” she said of his response. 
Lane Findlay with the Weber School District confirms it’s a rule, but he said it’s meant to teach students how to be inclusive. 
“Please be respectful, be polite," Findlay said. "We want to promote kindness, and so we want you to say yes when someone asks you to dance."


That is not. How you teach students. Inclusivity.

That is how you teach students that girls are not allowed to say no to boys. Ever. That is how you teach rape culture. That is how you promote and fuel rape culture. What the FUCK were you thinking???

Prior to the dance, which is voluntary, students are told to fill out a card by selecting five people they want to dance with. The administration says if there’s someone on the card you feel uncomfortable with, the student is encouraged to speak up. 
“If there is an issue, if there’s students that are uncomfortable or have a problem with another student, I mean: that’s certainly something that can be addressed with that student and parents,” Findlay said.

Girls shouldn't have to make it a huge issue just to say "no" to a dance. This puts a huge burden on girls that basically says "you hate this boy so much that you had to get the administration involved." Like. Hello????

After this complaint, the rule is still in place. The school's phone number is 801-452-4680.

I don't care if this is set up in advance. This sends a horrific message to kids during a period of time when this administration should know better. Consent and sexual harassment is a huge national conversation right now, and here is this elementary school, stuck back in, I dunno, some awful time period when women and girls weren't allowed to say no at all.

If bullying and kids feeling left out is a problem, find another way to address it. Teach kids empathy and that differences are okay, rather than promoting conformity. Don't put the onus on little girls to say yes to every little boy who wants a dance. Or anything else. It's not the girls' job to make the boys feel accepted. It's not girls' job to lift up and support the self-esteem of boys. It's not girls' job to sacrifice themselves to save the boys.

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