Friday, December 22, 2017

Gif of the Day


Wow I really should have just done all the gifs of the day at once because I forgot to do it for the past two days oops. Anyway here's a cop breaking the law because they just do whatever the fuck they want I guess.

I mean, I'm assuming it's against the law to stand on a motorcycle while it's going down the road.

Monday, December 18, 2017

Gif of the Day


Same.

Afternoon Announcements

I wasn't sure I was going to take an entire two weeks off, but I'm feeling like I need to make myself take two weeks off from something. I'll be doing other work this week and then taking next week off from everything. I honestly should take much more time off than I do, and so should just about every person unfortunate enough to live and work in the U.S. except for the rich fucks who do nothing of value all day every day and are just black holes for resources that should be going to the poor.

I also feel like I might need some kind of mental reset. I've been dipping into some depression lately, mostly over the state of the country and an increasingly dim and uncertain future. I feel like, since the ruling class has put us into this state where any amount of money we try and save doesn't matter because one illness or accident is going to wipe all of that out and plunge us into massive debt anyway, I should lean full into the "fuck money, enjoy life" philosophy, but my anxiety is not down with that. It would rather... constantly worry about money. Fuck.

I think my campaign internship is going to die after the new year, but I've found other work, and it's work-from-home work, so I should be okay, and blogging should get back into full swing. Maybe I'll uhhhhhh.... exercise?? Or something.

In some good news, I have moved forward with changing the blog to Revolutionary Feminism. I've commissioned a lovely woman to make the banner image, and then depending on how much I can make on this new job, next month I may be able to hire a proper site designer.

This is all going to cost money so if you want to donate, I have a thing on the right side of your screen there or an entire donate page. I'm hoping to find a trans woman of color web designer or someone else who has difficulty finding work due to cultural bigotry, so donations any donations go right into her pocket.

And for the holidays, I have gifts for you all! Oh, sorry, did I say gifts? I meant gifs.


See you in 2018!

Thursday, December 14, 2017

Gif of the Day


If you don't want to punch nazis, you could always...

(Note: As far as I know, the guy getting double-kicked in this gif is not a nazi)

Could the Problem Be....... Capitalism???

I came across this HuffPo article this morning and it looks like the kinda thing that's gonna go "viral" or whatever we silly millennials call it, what with all the flashy scroll effects and pixel art. It's a good compilation of the reasons why we millennials are screwed out of the lives we were promised if we just worked hard, and it aaalllllmost gets to the crux of the issue before pulling back as though the "c" word were as naughty as it sounds like it should be when you say "'c' word."

I guess it's called "Generation Screwed." There's not really a title at the top due to all the fanciness.

The decline of the job has its primary origins in the 1970s, with a million little changes the boomers barely noticed. The Federal Reserve cracked down on inflation. Companies started paying executives in stock options. Pension funds invested in riskier assets. The cumulative result was money pouring into the stock market like jet fuel. Between 1960 and 2013, the average time that investors held stocks before flipping them went from eight years to around four months. Over roughly the same period, the financial sector became a sarlacc pit encompassing around a quarter of all corporate profits and completely warping companies’ incentives. 
The pressure to deliver immediate returns became relentless. When stocks were long-term investments, shareholders let CEOs spend money on things like worker benefits because they contributed to the company’s long-term health. Once investors lost the ability to look beyond the next earnings report, however, any move that didn’t boost short-term profits was tantamount to treason. 
The new paradigm took over corporate America. Private equity firms and commercial banks took corporations off the market, laid off or outsourced workers, then sold the businesses back to investors. In the 1980s alone, a quarter of the companies in the Fortune 500 were restructured. Companies were no longer single entities with responsibilities to their workers, retirees or communities.

All true. Very true. At this point I'm waiting, just aching for that c-word to pop up, because it seems to be on the tip of the author's tongue. But then he goes on to talk about the rise of contract jobs and student loan debt, ending on some vague platitudes about how if we work together we can make some programs that will put some nice bandaids on the problems caused by the real culprit which is FUCKING CAPITALISM.

The author of this article talks a lot about how our financial system and economy and workplace norms have changed and says that we need to adjust with it. What he misses is the fact that the reason Wall Street went this way is because capitalism is spiraling out of control, as is inevitable. Capitalism couldn't be sated by real money. There's just not enough of it. In order to keep expanding and consuming ever more, we had to start dealing in imaginary money. That's what the stock market is. That's what it's for. The circulation of imaginary money is actually the final stage of capitalism. We've been in late-stage capitalism for a long time now, and we millennials are the lucky fuckers who get to deal with the worst of the consequences of it falling apart. Us and the generations that come after. Poor bastards.

Yes, there are ideas about new kinds of unions and new laws that could help the new class of contract workers so that companies can't just call us that in order to give us nothing. And yeah, they might temporarily help us. Until the rich find a new way to screw us over. That's how it goes. The rich invest a bunch of their mass amounts of money into screwing us, we get pissed and fight back, we gain a bit of ground back, and then get complacent while the ruling class plots how they can do a better job of screwing us. It's been happening for decades, and overall, things have gotten worse and worse over time since the 1950s.

Worker's rights haven't seen real gains since the 1930s. We got those because of strong union participation and willingness to fight against police and maybe use a little *gasp* violleeennnceee.

So the ruling class choked all the strength out of unions, gave immunity to the police and made it a death sentence to even look at the cops wrong in some cases, plus cultivated a culture where their form of violence is right and anything against them is the wrong kind of violence. Plus, as much power and wealth as the rich had over the working class back then, they have a shit load more now.

Sooooo what now? Can we really fight against them when they've spent all this time working on making us as powerless as possible while we've just been working to try and have a decent life? You think they're gonna let a couple new laws and weak unions stop them from taking everything from us? Capitalism will let them, until its inevitable collapse.

I just hope at that point people will finally realize that capitalism is the problem and needs to be replaced with something not destined to consume until it implodes. Though it would be nice if they realized it before that. Thanks.

Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Gif of the Day


They have a birb bowl oh my god.

Support Black Women

You've probably seen the graphic going around that shows the huge disparity between black and white voters in Alabama for yesterday's senate race. And if you haven't, what are you even doing?

Black individuals carried the Democrats last night, with black women pulling in the biggest majority for Doug Jones. My fellow white people (at least those who are opposed to having a child molester in the Senate) were grateful, and black women have some ideas about what we can do with that gratitude.



Black Women Do Not Exist To Save You -  Hannah Drake

Black Votes Matter: Why the African American Vote is So Crucial - Linda Lubi

Black Women Kept Roy Moore Out of Office. Here’s How to Actually Thank Them. - Brittany Packnett


If you do want to support black women, here are some great places to start:

Higher Heights

Southern Rural Black Women's Initiative

Reparations: Requests & Offerings

#GiveBackGiveBlack // Black Women Candidate Donate List

Safety Pin Box

You know what you need to do, fellow white people. If you're grateful, show it.

A Day of Victories!

[TRIGGER WARNING: CHILD MOLESTER ROY MOORE, REFERENCE TO RACIAL SLUR]

UPDATE: Apparently this isn't real at all. It's a fake article meant to show us how easy it would be for this to happen, further illustrating how ridiculous it is that they won't just fucking change the team name. And also, apparently, I can't be bothered to read giant bolded disclaimers right at the beginning of articles. My bad.

Yes, Doug Jones beat Roy Moore for the Alabama Senate seat, yes it's amazing, yes it's a relief, yes also the fact that anybody voted for Roy Moore when he's so clearly a child molester makes me want to puke, and yes absolutely we have black people to thank but need to thank them with more than our words, more on that later.

But also, holy shit, I actually thought this would never happen:

Washington Football Ditches Controversial Name for Redhawks


No way!!!!

Wednesday morning the Washington football team franchise released a new name, logo, and mascot for the 2018 football season. The rebranded Washington logo features the head of their new mascot: the Redhawk. Washington fans will recognize the maroon and gold colors of their home team “kept to commemorate the enduring legacy of the Washington football team franchise.” 
The team’s statement reads, “In a time of deep divisions, football has always been and always will be a great unifier. Under the values of courage, commitment and achievement, the Washington football team is proud to announce the Washington Redhawks, a mascot everyone can cheer for.”

Oh shut the fuck up you took way too long to do this and have been fighting it for years and ignoring it for decades before that.

Way to go, Native Americans who got this done, and nobody else. You rule. Black people rule. We white people need to do soooooo much better.

Headline of the Month

Trump's getting desperate to the point that it's pretty pathetic and almost making me sad.

Trump's legal team wants a special counsel to investigate the investigators


The article spurred Trump attorney Jay Sekulow to tell Axios that "the Department of Justice and FBI cannot ignore the multiple problems that have been created by these obvious conflicts of interests. These new revelations require the appointment of a special counsel to investigate."

Mueller is a fucking Republican.

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Gif of the Day


@ Roy Moore

Republicans: The Party of Pedophiles

[TRIGGER WARNING: CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE, CHILD RAPE]

This has been all over the news and really there isn't much more to say than "Alabama will probably elect as its senator a known pedophile who was so brazen about his sexual predation of young girls that he was banned from the mall and this fact has only made many Republicans more likely to vote for him and defend him harder." But there's one bit that seems to have slipped through the cracks a bit that really just blows my fucking mind, why are Republicans like this???

Former Breitbart reporters bring 12-year-old girl to interview Roy Moore for pro-Trump Super PAC ad

The preteen is Millie March, who became a conservative darling when she expressed her enthusiastic support for Trump at CPAC earlier this year. The project’s vice president Jennifer Lawrence (who is also a former Breitbart reporter) explained why they decided to bring the poor girl to interview a man with a long roster of women saying he preyed on them as teens in this video. She states: 
"We decided that we were going to bring Millie to Alabama, after everything that’s happened in this Alabama Senate race up until this point. We thought it was important to not only come here as Western PAC to support Roy Moore, but also to bring Millie here to show that there’s a wide range of people who support Roy Moore."

Okay. So because Roy Moore is "supported by" the one 12-year-old girl he didn't molest, and of course at age 12 there's no way she's been influenced by outside forces and she definitely has a fully developed brain and everything (soooo much sarcasm), this means that Moore didn't molest anybody and it's cool to vote for him?

Think a-fucking-gain, folks.

And what the fuck is this???


It's like they're trying to brand themselves as the Party of Pedophiles. Not that they need to convince the rest of us anymore.

At this point, you can't go lower. It doesn't get any lower than preying on children. If their god is real they're going to the deepest pits of hell, and the people who vote for them will be close behind. Please go soon.

Oh, and that girl? Millie March? Someone fucking rescue her from the awful adults exploiting her please for the love of god someone help that little child.

I've Always Been a Supporter of Faces

I don't know why we have to act this shit out for people like a puppet show explaining sex to 10-year-olds, but this is pretty hilarious anyway:


"Some of my best friends have faces."


Monday, December 11, 2017

Gif of the Day


Did I already post this one? Doesn't matter, cat loves baby and mama rhino. Holy fucking shit.

Rape Culture Strikes Back

Maybe this is why I couldn't get excited about sexual predators actually facing consequences for their actions. Because I knew they'd find a way to fight back. Predators, rapists, and abusers never give up on their quest to hide their crimes and crush their victims.

As More College Students Say “Me Too,” Accused Men Are Suing For Defamation

Victims of sexual harassment and assault are saying "Me Too" as the country goes through a culture shift following revelations about Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, and other major celebrities accused of everything from crude comments to rape. On college campuses, that shift has been playing out for years, due in part to student activism and to increased attention to campus sexual violence from the Obama administration. But defamation lawsuits like the one Jane faces are a new tool in the battle over Title IX enforcement and are proving to be serious obstacles to students filing sexual misconduct complaints. Activists, college administrators, and lawyers say they've seen a spike in defamation lawsuits over the past couple of years as defenders of accused students say they're too often victims of overzealous school disciplinary panels — a view echoed by Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos.

First of all, these lawyers raking in piles of cash by defending these "victims" of "false accusation" and lying by saying that false accusations are common when they're rare to incredibly rare are demons and I actually hope they all die. I don't automatically hate all lawyers because many lawyers are heroes who are an essential aspect of our justice system, fucked up as it may be. But these lawyers are the scummiest of the scum, the lowest bottom feeders, licking shit off of the boots of rapists for sustenance.

These lawsuits are going to grind our progress to a halt, and is already in the process of doing so. As they become more and more common, victims are going to have a new reason to fear coming forward.

Colby Bruno, a lawyer at the Victim Rights Law Center in Boston, said that a few years ago, about 5% of her cases arising from alleged campus sexual assaults involved an accuser facing a defamation suit; now a little more than half do. When attorney Laura Dunn started her victim advocacy nonprofit SurvJustice in 2014, she said she did not get any requests from students facing threats of defamation suits for reporting a sexual assault. Since last year, though, Dunn estimates five students have called asking for her help. Until a couple of years ago, Schneider had only seen one student who reported a sexual assault to their college get sued for defamation. Now, he said, it happens in around a quarter of cases he's involved in. "I think that percentage is going to rise."

Instead of fearing being dragged through the mud to ultimately be disbelieved and forced to share space with their rapists and deal with increased abuse from them, victims now have to fear financial ruin. Even if the lawsuit fails, defendants have to spend thousands of dollars to defend themselves.

The thing about rape culture is that rapists, assaulters, and abusers very often have power over their victims, including financial power. These people know that in order to get away with their disgusting crimes, they need to be in positions of power. They crave that power over people, and so they work and cheat and abuse their way to the top, ending up as managers and executives and producers and celebrities. They can then use this monetary advantage to sue or threaten to sue their victims, which they can and do target because of their vulnerable positions.

Maybe they'll think twice before abusing a rich actress, but the service workers, the house/hotel cleaners, the low-level office workers, the students, and all the other people struggling just to get by who couldn't dream of affording a decent lawyer? They're the ones who will continue to be victimized and silenced.

I was waiting for something like this to come out. This is why, although the progress made by #MeToo and the eventual refusal of companies and brands to tolerate sexual predators, we are far from ending rape culture. We need a revolution, a complete change of the culture from the bottom-up - meaning we need to start with properly educating children. Again, I think that all the powerful men being fired for being predators has helped. It's a step. But they're just going to get sneakier now. They're still out there, and so much of our society will still tolerate them.

Right now, we need some kind of charitable organization dedicated to paying lawyers and court fees for the victims of these bullshit lawsuits. And we need to work on legislation preventing bullshit defamation suits in general. We need to let judges know that these suits are designed to intimidate and silence victims and to throw them out quickly, and/or encourage counter-suits so victims are compensated.

In the long term, we need to keep teaching respect, consent, and bodily autonomy. We need to keep fighting rape culture, because it's still going strong despite the recent blow we dealt it.

I will fight it until I die.

Thursday, December 7, 2017

Gif of the Day


The Holy Trinity.

This is Why I Don't Trust Democrats

Here's what I don't get. When antifa is out there protecting us from nazis, which includes using a bit of self-defensive violence, Dems and liberals are all "when they go low, we go high!" When college students protest white supremacist speakers and try to disrupt their spouting genocidal rhetoric, Dems and liberals are super into their morals and being better than Republicans and letting everybody speak and also violence is always wrong no matter what!

Then when multiple women come forward to accuse Senator Al Franken of sexual harassment/assault and he decides to resign, suddenly they're so practical! Suddenly a strong morality isn't as important as beating Republicans. Suddenly they're willing to be hypocrites, weaken their position against Roy Moore, and become more like the people they're supposed to have the moral high ground over.

Isn't that just so fucking interesting??


It's almost like every time it comes to protecting marginalized persons, whether it be the women who are so much more likely to be victims of sexual harassment/assault or all of the people who will be victimized (slash murdered) by nazis if we let them have their way, the liberal ideology suddenly switches from idealism to pragmatism.

This is why I don't trust the Democrats. Because when it comes down to it, it's clear that all they care about is their own power. If it's easy to promote a high road kind of morality to make themselves seem better than Republicans, they do it. But the moment it's inconvenient, the people they're supposed to represent can go right under the bus. This is why Democrats keep shifting to the right instead of actually helping the poor, marginalized, and oppressed. When it might get them more votes, who cares if some of their politicians are pro-lifers? When it threatens their reputation among weak centrists and racist liberals, then it's time to condemn the scary actual-left antifa!

And we're told we still have to vote for Democrats because Republicans are worse, but at what point do Democrats and Republicans become indistinguishable? All the time I become more convinced that our only real option is to let this shit burn down. Because going along with these worse-than-useless Democrats is hurting more and more people. I've been told it's not the right time for a revolution because it would hurt too many people. But does revolution become impossible when things are good, because people become complacent?

I'm tired of being betrayed. I'm tired of being told I need to adhere to moral standards that Dems are willing to throw the fuck out the window when we need them most.

If you're willing to defend sexual predators when it's politically convenient, why the fuck should I support you? Because if I don't, more people die?

This is a hostage situation and I'm fucking sick of it.

Cops Protect Each Other. EXCEPT.

When a cop is a woman who brings up white male privilege.

Female police captain in Indiana suspended after ‘white male privilege’ remark

Apparently, the """""incident""""" happened when police were being trained in how to treat trans people like people, and some white dude cop refused to believe that trans people are more likely than cis people to be victims of police violence. The police training said a little over 3 times more likely, which sounds fucking lowwwwwwww to me. But this guy.

“My wife has never been part of police violence,” he said. “Most of the people that I know have never been, accused the police of violence. So I guess I don’t get where that statistic comes from.”

??? Is this guy married to a trans woman? Does he only know trans people? Or is he just doubting that police ever commit unnecessary violent acts? (Hint: It's the last one.)

Then one cop spoke some fucking sense for once, and he flips the fuck out.

 “‘Cause your white male privilege, so you wouldn’t know” said a woman’s voice. The woman was identified as Weber by local media outlets. 
“I’m sorry?” a man asked. 
“Your white male privilege,” the woman repeated. 
“Chief, you gonna let [unintelligible] get away with that? Seriously? I’m asking a legitimate question here, and I’m getting [unintelligible] white privilege?” the man said, his voice rising. 
“Are you serious?” the man then yelled. “I find that extremely offensive.”

Wow, and people call me a snowflake who cries "offensive" at every little thing.

Guy is faced with the reality that trans people are disproportionately affected by police violence, and the idea that he has privilege is what offends him to the extreme. Can't believe that transphobia among cops is a thing, but he is definitely a victim of racism and sexism because he was told he has privilege.

“I was racially and sexistly slurred by Captain Carri Weber while I was asking a question of the instructor in training,” the officer wrote in the complaint. “I am now firmly aware of the discriminatory belief she just verbally communicated. … There is no place in the Plainfield Police administration or supervision for someone who holds and espouses her discriminatory views.”

Sexistly slurred. Okay.

Did other officers protect their captain? Stand up for her? Rally around her because any time a cop is accused of discrimination, this is what cops do? Nope, she's been suspended. Her bosses are going to vote on her future. Meaning she could be fired. Can hardly get a cop fired for murdering trans people and black people right and left, but use the "P" word? THAT'S OFFENSIVE, FIRE HER.

Interesting, isn't it? White male privilege challenged and the cops can't tolerate that for a second. HMMMMMMM.

Either way, lady needs to quit the force and do something better with her life. Lead a campaign to expose the bigotry and violence of police. Get your educated ass out there doing good instead of being part of an oppressive force.

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Gif of the Day


I mean fuck Sears but also this is somehow unsettling.

Time's People of the Year

[TRIGGER WARNING: MENTION OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT, ASSAULT, & RAPE]

So, Time has named its Person of the Year to be the "silence breakers," aka all the women (and some men) coming forward to name sexual predators.

I gotta admit, I still can't get past this cautious pessimism I have over the entire sexual predators facing consequences for their actions, even the ones that hold a lot of power (but not Lord Dampnut of course, oh no). I just feel like this can't possibly be the new norm. It's gonna end up reversing itself somehow and going back to the way it's always been. I dunno. I guess I just never dreamed that this day would come in my lifetime.

But here we are. Time's Person of the Year is all the women who are ending the era of accepted sexual harassment. No more "boys will be boys." And I appreciate that Time put women of various races on their cover.

At the same time, it's also weird for them to be called silence breakers. Women haven't been silent. Many women, including the entire feminist community, have been screaming about this for decades. Maybe centuries. Yes, some women remain silent when faced with sexual harassment on the job because they can't afford to speak up or are just too afraid/in despair. But feminists have been speaking up for them since fucking forever. The difference is the consequences. It's like suddenly a switch was flipped and men are listening. We got over some invisible barrier to them believing us and/or giving a fuck. FINALLY. Suddenly, finally, in two-thousand-fucking-seventeen, the cultural norm has flipped. I'm still not sure why. Maybe my optimistic side is right and progress really is inevitable.

Anyway, I read the entire Time article on their selection on the bus this morning. It's not bad. It even names Tarana Burke, the women who originally came up with the "Me Too" rallying cry a decade ago. They don't mention that she's a black woman, which is important because seriously how many movements and hashtags that we credit to white women were actually started by black women?? Maybe Time's Person of the Year should be the ignored black women who are actually responsible for all the good social change in this country.

It also calls out the constant softening of language. Many of the cases labeled "harassment" or "inappropriate behavior" are actually "sexual assault" and "rape." You know, crimes. Felonies. Can some of these people actually be arrested or?

I'm not a fan of the shout-out the article gives to the man-fretting over "where is the line??? Could I lose my job for looking at a woman????"

And yeah, obviously a dude who makes a sexist joke and a guy who commits sexual assault aren't the same. But you can actually fire both, did you know that? Go ahead and fire the both of them.

Overall, I guess I approve, though I'll be on my guard waiting for other, more observant feminists to point out things wrong with it that I missed. Mostly, it's that we were never silent. Men just didn't do anything about it.

Side note, even though he's a white man and a Republican, I would have lost it if Time had named Robert Mueller Person of the Year. Can you imagine? They must have been tempted. I'm also a little sad that it didn't go to Colin Kaepernick. He deserves just as much recognition. Maybe next year is the year racists get fired right and left. I'm talking about more than the obvious white supremacists. #NoWorkForRacists

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Gif of the Day


Fffffffump.

Recommended Reading

It's important that you read this Twitter thread because holy shit, everything's making so much more sense now.

I found it on a Tumblr blog called gay-and-grumpy and it's all about why people are putting up with such evil shit from the GOP. The short answer is that they don't believe the straight facts that are presented to them because they just can't believe one side of the U.S. political spectrum could be that evil.

This is just the start of it:


I encourage you to go to the Tumblr blog and read the entire thing. Click on the individual screenshots to enlarge them. Or you can go to David Roberts' Twitter page and dig up the thread there. Either way, just read all of it, and then consider how the fuck we're going to fix this. How do we make people believe that cartoon-level evil villainy has become real?

Alt-Right Women Very Surprised That Alt-Right Men Are Sexist

It's amazing how quickly the female racists of the alt-right turn into feminists when the male racists of their shit movement start treating them badly based on gender!

“Alt-right” women are upset that “alt-right” men are treating them terribly

Women in the "alt-right" "are constantly harassed by low level anonymous trolls trying to put us in our place," self-described "Ethno Nationalist" Tara McCarthy wrote on Twitter Sunday, in a moment of revelation that was well-known to basically anyone else. "The ultimate goal seems to be to bully us off the internet."



I don't usually use anime reaction gifs but this is extremely appropriate.

It's just so INCREDIBLE to think that the exact same people who have been trying to bully women off the internet for YEARS would bully you, Tara, a woman, who says things on the internet.

Don't lose your mind just yet, though. She's not saying that alt-right losers shouldn't bully women. They just shouldn't bully the women who are on their side.

The problem I'm stating here is not that 'there are trolls on the internet' but that people who proclaim to be on our side are trying to tear down women in our in-group. If you can't see why this is dysfunctional, I can't help you.

Whoa weird, it's almost like misogynistic men don't stop being misogynistic even if you agree with everything they say! It's almost like you won't be immune from their hatred of you no matter how much you lean into that white supremacy! Like your whiteness doesn't protect you from misogyny! Whoa!

Then there's Laura Southern.

Another self-described "conservative woman" also had a problem with her movement's underlying culture. In a video titled, "Why I'm Not Married," Lauren Southern responded to the backlash she received for pushing "traditional family values" and trying to tear down feminism — while not turning into a baby-making machine, herself. 
"I am not trying to sell the idea that myself, as a 22-year-old, needs to be married right now for the sake of traditionalism and not being a degenerate," Southern said in a YouTube video. "What is also just completely shocking to me is the utter lack of understanding of nuance."

Holy. Shit. Are you telling me that white supremacists don't understand nuance??????????? YOU'RE FUCKING SHITTING ME AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH


Honestly fuck both of you. You chose your bedmates, now deal.

Monday, December 4, 2017

Gif of the Day


People are weird.

Baby It's Rape Culture-y Outside

For the past couple years, there's been a cultural discussion about how that old Christmas song "Baby It's Cold Outside" sounds a whole lot like a guy coercing some poor woman into sex, and possibly drugging her. This idea became semi-mainstream a couple years ago, I can't remember exactly when, though feminists have been cringing at the sound of it coming over the grocery store intercom for decades.

This year, we have a new trend. Suddenly, I'm seeing post after post about how in the context of the time it was written, it was actually totally fine!

Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s.  
So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem.  
BUT! Let’s look closer!  
“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol. 
See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.

The post goes on to say that in the 1940's, women weren't allowed to say yes to sex for pleasure and had to rely on excuses like "there was no safe way to get home" to stay at a man's house overnight and, I guess, "I was drugged and raped" to have sex when unmarried. It sounds like this was an open secret, and the song is about that ridiculous and, by today's standards, incredibly disturbing social norm.

Here's the thing. I'm sure this particular blogger is right. I'm sure they're speaking the truth. But I have a problem with how this information is being used. I'm seeing multiple Facebook friends declare this post to mean that they don't have to hate the song anymore, and they're so relieved, because they secretly love that song!

Clearly there's some kind of miscommunication here. Nobody ever had to hate the song. You don't have to automatically hate every bit of media that is problematic, no matter how bad it is. People like what they like. I still watch shows like How I Met Your Mother, which celebrates a serial date rapist. Sometimes I just need to sit down and watch some trash TV to turn my brain off. Sometimes the songs with the worst lyrics are really fucking catchy.

People freak out because they think that feminists are making them hate all the things they love, because they think that they'll be considered horrible people if they keep liking problematic media. There may be some individuals who will tear you down for admitting you like a song or a video game or whatever, but the general consensus is that there's wayyyyy too much shitty media out there for it to be possible to completely reject all of it and not want to kill yourself.

So go ahead and like "Baby It's Cold Outside." You never needed to not like it.

Here's the problem, though. This explanation of 1940's cultural norms comes in response to an image of a tweet saying that we don't need new recordings of the song. And that is definitely true. You know what else we don't need? To have that song played in public spaces. Whether the song is about raping a woman or about a culture in which rape culture was so intense that women had to pretend to be raped to have consensual sex, which, good lord, what the fuck, oh my god. Anyway, the point is that I consider that song to be rated R. 18+. Adult only. Not fit for the grocery store, malls, or in public squares where children are lining up to meet Santa. Okay?

Remember that intent isn’t magic. Even if the intent of the song wasn’t to support rape culture, think about the people today who hear this every year, including young kids. They don’t have the knowledge about 1940′s social norms to determine that she was in on an old-timey joke or whatever. They’re unlikely to even have the knowledge to recognize it a potential rape anthem. They’re going to hear it and subconsciously learn that pressuring women into sexual situations is okay, even cute.

So go ahead and love the song, listen to the song on your phone through your headphones and feel perfectly okay about it. But I don't want to see people using obscure knowledge about 1940's culture to defend assholes making money off of new versions of a song that sounds exactly like rape culture in 2017, and again, I do not want to hear this song in public.

Friday, December 1, 2017

Gif of the Day


Excuse me I just need to shift my position for MAXIMAL CUDDLING.

It's Coming

[TRIGGER WARNING: HIGHLY PESSIMISTIC CONTENT]


Actually I don't know what the point of no return would be. Have we already passed it? Is it Mueller concluding that Trump committed treason and the Republicans shrugging it off? Is it when they do away with term limits? Was it when we decided that election tampering was acceptable? We'll know in hindsight, I'm sure.

For now, get ready.

Hey Men, Can You Be Quiet for a Second


[TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT, SEXUAL HARASSMENT, RELATED APOLOGIA]

So I'm working this internship right, and the guy I've been working with who I guess you could say is my boss, or at least he clearly has some level of power over me, is driving the both of us to a meeting. And he brings up all the reports of sexual harassment/assault happening.

I immediately tense up. Here's the thing. I've only known this guy for a little over two week. I don't know anything about him. He is barely more than a stranger. And he brings up something that is starkly divided by gender and very, shall we say, "sensitive."

He says that he believes most of the women, but some of the reports seem off. He brings up Al Franken. Says some things don't add up or something like that. I (obviously) have opinions on that, including the fact that all the articles claiming that the victim was in on the joke or that it was a running gag between them or whatever are from right-wing conspiracy sites at best, and what the fuck is he, a supposed liberal working for a liberal campaign, doing not only reading that kind of shit but believing it? Also, why the fuck should I care what he, a white dude, thinks about this issue that he should know overwhelmingly victimizes women?

What I say is, "Al Franken didn't deny it, though."

And he replies, "True, but you can't deny it. Then you're calling her a liar."

I go quiet at this point, knowing that I can't say what I want to say, which at the moment is "dude have you ever considered just not talking about this at all, especially to women?"

I have lots of thoughts about what he said. Such as the implication that any man who doesn't deny what he did or even admits it could still be innocent because they're just trying not to "make things worse," meaning we should pretty much always disbelieve the victims. And the fact that Al Franken didn't just not deny it, he apologized, basically admitting it, and called an investigation onto himself, so are you just defending him because he matches your political leanings or what?

But what I really just want to ask all men here is that maybe you just do not bring this up to women at all. Especially if you don't know her well. Especially if you have any kind of power over her. I honestly don't know what the fuck this guy was thinking. There is so much ridiculous shit going on in the world right now that he could have brought up, but that? To me? When we're alone in his car? Come on.

I don't trust this guy now and almost certainly never will. And not because of his frankly everyday opinions on a sexual assault report. I mean, a little that. But mostly because he apparently didn't take the time to think that it would be entirely inappropriate to bring up this topic to me? And that's best case scenario. Now I'm also afraid that he brought it up intentionally to weigh my response.

There's also the fact that you never know who is a survivor, and I expect men to know by now how many women are. It's hard enough hearing about these reports every goddamn day, steadily increasing the feeling that no one and nowhere is safe. Do not make that worse by bringing it up to random women. Do not risk triggering them. Do not insist upon airing your man opinions to her.

Just, for the love of god, for once in your lives, BE QUIET.