Tuesday, October 11, 2016

National Coming Out Day

I'm hoping everyone knows the rules of National Coming Out Day because I'm blogging from work on my phone right now and can't link to them. Mostly don't out someone else and don't "come out" as straight.

In the spirit of the day, I guess I'll announce here that I recently figured out that I'm not straight. I clearly have attraction to multiple genders. I've decided that the best fit for me is pansexual.

It took a bit for me to get here because, like many queer women who have grown up in a heteronormative society, I've only dated men. Pansexual also comes with the stereotype of having a higher sex drive and sleeping with a lot of different people. It tends to get confused with polyamorous. I am in a monogamous relationship and am a very monogamous person.

But that doesn't make me any less pansexual.

On this day, I'd encourage everyone, particularly straight people, to think about their sexuality. I believe that sexuality can change over time and that in our society, it's easy to assume you're straight because for many years you probably grew up thinking that was the only option.  Maybe that "girl crush" is more than that. Just a thought.

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