Thursday, April 30, 2015

Gif of the Day

Look! A baby feminist!

Somebody Called the Cops on Jesus

No, it's not the name of a new punk band. It's an actual thing that happened.

A new religious statue in the town of Davidson, N.C., is unlike anything you might see in church. 
The statue depicts Jesus as a vagrant sleeping on a park bench. St. Alban’s Episcopal Church installed the homeless Jesus statue on its property in the middle of an upscale neighborhood filled with well-kept townhomes. 
Jesus is huddled under a blanket with his face and hands obscured; only the crucifixion wounds on his uncovered feet give him away. 
The reaction was immediate. Some loved it; some didn’t. 
“One woman from the neighborhood actually called police the first time she drove by,” says David Boraks, editor of “She thought it was an actual homeless person.” 
That’s right. Somebody called the cops on Jesus.

I don't usually quote that much from someone else's article but it's written too beautifully to break up. There's plenty more to the story, though, so please look through the entire NPR article.

Also, this apparently happened over a year ago, but fuck it, this blog didn't exist then. And it's still fucking relevant.

Is Violence Always Bad?

As the Baltimore Uprising continues, I see article after article calling for white people to shut the fuck up, stop calling black people thugs, and have some goddamn empathy for them. Yet so many of these articles seem to have the irresistible urge to soften the blow by pointing out that the author does not condone violence or criminal behavior.

"Is violence wrong? Yes. Is property destruction wrong? Yes. Is committing crimes wrong? Yes."

People, especially liberal white people, have been spouting off shit like this recently like it's going out of style. They say it like it's some fundamental truth, but when you really look into it and examine these apparently pacifist attitudes, they fall apart pretty quickly.

First of all, crime. Is committing a crime always wrong? What if the law is unjust? Consider how many of these white liberals have smoked weed in places where it wasn't legal. How many Seattle liberals have gone to Bumbershoot and smoked weed in public in full contempt of the cops who stand around and did nothing about it? Even back before it was legalized, when it was still considered a Schedule 1 narcotic? Were you doing something wrong, or was the law unjust?

But of course, you weren't damaging any property, right? Other than coating it with weed stink, no one's property was hurt. Okay, what about the tearing down of the Berlin Wall? That shit was government property. Do you think President Reagan was wrong when he said "Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall"? Do you think the oppressed people in Germany were wrong to tear it apart? The government spent a lot of money on that wall. What about the Boston Tea Party? Were the colonists wrong to hurt the merchants who had spent money to order that tea by throwing it into the bay?

Did you know that during the American Civil War, the Union Army used organized tactics of massive property destruction, including burning down entire plantations and food storage so that people would starve, in order to win? That without that, they probably would have lost? Talk about violence.

And what about straight up physical violence from person to person? Do you oppose every war in existence? Should we have used non-violent action against the Nazis? What about self defense? How many black kids have to die before a riot is considered self-defense? Nothing else has worked. People pushed to a certain point will revolt. The U.S. colonists did it for much less than black people in this country have endured, but nobody condemns them.

If you're going to be a pacifist, a "violence never solved anything" person, you have to go all the way. Otherwise, you're just a hypocrite.

And FYI, even the Quakers support the Baltimore protesters, so.

Featured Blog: Shit People Say to Women Directors

Man, if you thought you'd seen some male tears on other blogs, check out Shit People Say to Women Directors.

The tears that start coming down when women are in positions of power over then! Look at this:

[Photo of a boy crying below the words: While I was directing an actor, he broke out in the middle of the scene and shouted "She's EMASCULATING ME!"]

Literally the funniest thing I've ever seen.

Unfortunately, there are even more posts of men being absolute fucking ridiculous misogynist shits. It's super depressing. It makes me want to become someone with a lot of power over people so that I can fire every misogynist who assumes I'm the secretary.

How Many Rights Can Police Violate in One Incident?

  1. Arrested for no reason after she asked police for help and was refused.
  2. Detained without charges.
  3. Put in a male prison and had her gender changed to "male" on the booking papers despite the fact that legal identification said "female."
  4. Strip searched twice by a total of seven male officers.
  5. Denied essential medical care, which left her with bleeding ulcers that put her in the hospital.
Just a day in the life of a black trans woman in a country that clearly doesn't see such people as people.

This happened a day after the woman, Sadaisha Shimmers, posted a video saying she wanted to speak to Hillary Clinton about the massive transphobia problems in the U.S. That's a little fucking suspect.

You can read the whole story here, plus see a video of Sadaisha describing what happened to her. She wants people to spread the story around. People need to know that police have no problem with monumentally violating the basic legal rights of black trans women.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Gif of the Day


Seattle Security Guards Stand By As Black Girl is Assaulted


In yet another edition of "Seattle and other 'liberal' areas are still full of racist assholes," news has broken that a black woman, Aiesha Steward-Baker, is suing the city because cops and security guards did nothing to help her when she was a girl and being chased by a group of teens who intended to beat her up, and continued to do nothing when they started beating her up right in front of them.

Surveillance video of the attack showed Steward-Baker being beaten and stomped by a 15-year-old assailant inside the Westlake Center station. At least three Olympic Security Services guards hired to provide security in the tunnel are shown standing by as Steward-Baker was assaulted and robbed.

This was after she pleaded with cops to escort her to a safe place and they blew her off because "they didn't have time for kids who started trouble."

Here's the excuse the King County Sheriff's Office gave:

"They did not intercede as they are unarmed, civilian employees of Olympic Security Services. They are trained to not become involved in violent confrontations or fights, but are directed to call 911, which they did via the tunnel communications center. In addition, they were significantly outnumbered by the group."


This was not a "fight" or "confrontation." This was a group of kids targeting and beating up another kid who could not have defended herself against a group that was apparently too intimidating for adult security guards to confront. They couldn't even have yelled at the kids to stop? Told them that police were coming to scare them away? Nothing?

And nothing excuses the actual armed police officers who refused to help her when she asked for it because they thought she was "starting trouble." Those cops completely failed in their duty. Cops around a mall do nothing but stand the fuck around, but they couldn't send one officer to escort her to the bus stop? Please.

I have absolutely no doubt that if she had been a white girl, they would have escorted her without hesitation. Now Aiesha has anxiety and chronic pain from the assault. I hope she takes my city to the fucking cleaners. She should never have to work again.

Look At This Awesome Thing: The Nib

Found this one on Facebook thanks to the page "The People's Liberation." This webcomic is getting bookmarked and marathonned.

This is just one panel because I want you to give traffic to The Nib. Go there to see the whole thing.

Fucking hilarious.

"Sexism is Soooooo Over"

Except oh wait haha nope it's worse than ever.

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[Chart title: "If I pay, I think that a woman should have sex in return." Chart shows 21% of men age 18-25 said yes, 18% of men age 26-35 said yes, 14% of men 36-45 said yes, and 12% of men 46-65 said yes]

There are a lot of people who like to say that sexism is dying out as the older "actually sexist" generations die out. So we just have to wait for sexism to be over, right? Except that chart up there, taken from the 2013 study, "Who Pays for Dates? Following versus Challenging Conventional Gender Norms," shows that deeply entitled and sexist beliefs are more likely to be held among our younger generations.

Womp womp.

Believing that women owe men sex for any reason is a serious problem. This is part of why rape happens and why so many men get violent when women say no. They believe they're entitled to sex because they shelled out a few bucks for dinner on a date. Or held a door open for us. Or showed us the basic level of decency or pretended to recognize our humanity. And when you take away something that they believe they deserve, they tend to become enraged. As is constantly illustrated by submissions to the Instagram account Bye Felipe (massive trigger warning for fat hatred, violent rhetoric, threats including rape threats, pretty much every awful thing you can think of).

And this is why I believe that any change is dependent on men actually changing the way they think about women and sex. I know it's sooooo haaaaaaard but seriously, we're not getting anywhere. Do the fucking work.

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Gif of the Day

Recommended Reading

If you have asked the question "why do they burn down/destroy their own neighborhood," read this:

"Why do they burn down their own neighborhood?"

If you see other people asking that question or something like it, send them that link. That is all.

"Riots Are the Language of the Unheard" -MLK

Every time there's a protest involving black people, they have to deal with the calls of my fellow white people to "stay peaceful." And every time, any tiny bit of violence automatically makes it a "riot," which is code for "large groups of black people doing shit that scares white people."

Black people have been trying to explain to my fellow white people for a very, very long time that riots are not only understandable reactions of people who have to worry about being shot for being black no matter where they are (because cops might bust down your door and shoot you and then go "oops wrong house"), and that you can't complain about riots over black children being beaten to death by cops if you don't complain about white people rioting over sports, AND stOP QUOTING MLK TO COMPLAIN ABOUT BLACK PEOPLE DOING THINGS.

But again and again, it's the same narrative. Black people are pushed to the brink, they fight back, mainstream news goes "RIOTS EVERYWHERE LOOK AT THIS PICTURE OF A SHOE ON FIRE" while ignoring all the photos and video footage of cops and white people instigating violence and white people at home go "mweh mweh violence doesn't solve anything."

If violence doesn't solve anything, why do we even have cops?

Here are more black people who are saying all of these things which I am only repeating, because I learned it all from them.

hey, step back with the riot shaming - Older piece countering the classic anti-riot arguments.

11 Stunning Images Highlight the Double Standard of Reactions to Riots Like Baltimore

All of Etta Jameson's Twitter timeline oh my god.

Really just find black Twitter right now and read while continuously shutting up if you're white.

Monday, April 27, 2015

Gif of the Day

Is it a tiny fox or a giant cat??? WHICH IS IT?????????

RIP Rachel Bryk


Rachel Brkk, another trans woman driven to suicide. She was subjected to an immense amount of awful, transmisogynistic harassment from the gaming community. She was a game developer who made GameCube and Wii emulators, and was celebrated for her extremely helpful nature. When she started to talk about committing suicide online, commenters encouraged her to follow through. One of them told her that jumping off a bridge isn't hard. So she did.

And I wonder how many trans women have to die? How many of them will we have to list as reasons to fucking treat trans women as people, and to stop harassing people online? Should I not bother? Is it better to just celebrate her life? Am I using her to push a cause that seems to be going nowhere?

These are thoughts I have, but I promise I will never stop defending and fighting for trans women. Her harassers should be pursued and prosecuted for murder. I will accept nothing less as justice.

For now, support those who treated Rachel as human. Who saw her for who she is and loved her for it. I have to say it like that because there is a significant chance that her family rejected her for being a trans woman.

Rachel Bryk deserved better. I condemn my own community for failing to drive out those who harassed her and those who would defend or tolerate harassment. We must do better. This is life and death.

Recommended Reading


I don't know if I've explicitly talked about language on this blog yet. It's one of those things that have become so obvious to me, as a feminist and a writing major, that I forget other people aren't aware of it.

The trigger warnings above apply to this piece:

Fuck Her Raw: On Language and Seduction

The stories in this article disturb and anger me. I feel myself in them, as someone who has so much trouble with real-life confrontation. It makes me want to deliberately go out and find one of those gross pick up artists just so I can loudly and solidly reject them. And chase them off with a feminist rant. Seriously, I want to run after one of these guys yelling at them about consent and oppression and dehumanization. I will stalk them all the way home with my feminist lecture.

Anyway. On language. I'm gonna copy-paste a Facebook comment of mine.

Language is everything. So much of a person's character and beliefs and socialization and the general way they view the world is revealed in the subtle way they use their words. Most people don't even notice, but it's incredibly revealing how so much of our language around sex is not only violent, but one-sided. Men fuck women. Women get fucked by men. Women get ravaged and slammed and screwed and banged. Men "score." Men "get some." The very work "fuck" has that hard K sound that makes it aggressive.

If you haven't yet, start paying attention to the way people, especially men, talking about women and sex and sexuality. Note the aggressive and violent language, and be horrified.



One of those fun things we women have to worry about that men never ever ever ever will is mirrors in bathrooms. Any time time you have a small, one-person bathroom with no wall between the mirror and the toilet, there is a chance that it's a two-way mirror put up by fucking disgusting men who specifically get off or want to profit off of men who get off on violating our consent.

There have been multiple incidents of women discovering two-way mirrors in bars and clubs, and some of these are put there so that the owners can charge men to watch women in the bathroom without the woman knowing. This is a form of sexual assault known as voyeurism, and these bar and club owners are totally willing to make money off of violating scores of women.

The latest case is from a bar in Chicago called Cigars and Stripes (ew). While the discovery of mirrors like this no longer surprises me because rape culture, the owner's response when questioned by a Jezebel writer goes to whole new levels of gross and fucked up and misogynistic and hateful and hostile toward consent.

I used Do Not Link for this so that you can view without giving traffic to Jezebel.

I don't know what's most disturbing about this. Was it the fact that they have their staff answering the phone by saying "bathroom mirror"? Or the owner saying "Do you know how much joy that mirror has brought to us?" Or calling the writer "honey" multiple times? Or just the entire ranty nature of the call?

I can only hope that the reason this owner guy was ranting like that is because they've gotten inundated with calls about the mirror and he's starting to crack. Fuck him, he deserves it. I hope his shit bar gets shut down. He should be arrested, imprisoned, and registered as a sex offender for life.

But he won't. Because rape culture.

And this is rape culture. This is not some teenager in his mom's basement trolling women. This is a grown man with a well-established business who thinks it's perfectly good business to subject who knows how many women for who knows how many years to sexual assault and who thinks this is simply "making people uncomfortable."

Our bodies are nothing more than good business to him. Our privacy, our humanity don't matter. He'll happily continue using our dignity as a sideshow and our lack of consent as a selling point. Him and so many others.

Friday, April 24, 2015

Gif of the Day


The US Education System is Crap


This is what's been taking up so much of my time this week:

"I Wish My Teacher Had Known..."—Adults on How Teacher Empathy Could Have Changed Their Lives

Let me just say that in collecting the statements I used for this piece, I heard a lot of fucked up stories about teachers being terrible. I know teachers are overworked and underpaid. Clearly we need to be paying teachers a LOT MORE and giving them way more help and resources so they can understand and empathize with the kids they're basically raising so that every kid who's a little bit different from the others doesn't end up getting completely fucked up and screwed over. Okay? Maybe?


Oppression Is

Oh my god I slept in until noon and I am still tired. Thanks, uterus.

Thank god other people are already writing awesome insights on their Tumblr accounts that I can screenshot real quick.

Do me a favor and visit/follow perpetual-jackass, who originally posted this.

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Gif of the Day

I fucking love this show.

Actual Good Trans Representation

Boy Meets Girl is a movie about a cis guy who meets a trans girl who is actually played by a trans girl. The representation of trans girls/women in general appears to be very positive. Though I haven't watched it, actual trans girls have said that it's great.

You can get it on Vimeo on Demand. Rental price $4. I'm going to need to watch it when I find some time.


Boy Meets Girl - Trailer from Wolfe Video on Vimeo.

Video of Rich White Dudes Being Massive Assholes

So some guy decided to pretend to be homeless for a day so that he could give other people money and see how they would react. He sat on the sidewalk with a sign that said "No one has ever become poor from giving" and when people would decline to give him money, he would offer them some cash instead, saying that he wanted to help them out, or that he wanted to feel rich by giving other people a little help.

A lot of people in the video did not react well to this. Especially white dudes.

You really only need to watch the first 30 seconds or so to see the rich guy who literally says "I could fucking buy you."

Some people are so super offended by the guy dressed up as a homeless man trying to give them ten bucks that they cuss him out. I think the underlying message that rich people are no better than homeless people becomes loud and clear at that point, and said rich people get really pissed off because they think they are better that others because of their money. So when someone tries to "flip the script" and do something that's supposed to be part of the rich dude status (giving money to the "less fortunate"), it's like that's being taken away from them. Entitled assholes that they are, they become offended at best, or in the case of a couple men, enraged and borderline violent.

The male ego is super fragile, you know.

There was only like one guy and two women who responded positively to being given money by someone they thought was homeless. Even the woman in the video who does respond positively seems pretty condescending, at least to me.

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Gif of the Day


Look At This Awesome Thing: Crystal Mirror Fox Dealy

I don't know that much about art, but I love this shiny mirror animal. You might love women of color artists. This involves both.

The artist is Tomokazu Matsuyama. I found it on Tumblr in a post that links to this article, but for some reason this particular thing isn't on her website anymore. But there's plenty of more awesome stuff there, even if it's not as sparkly.

This is All MRA's Do

If you don't yet know about We Hunted the Mammoth, you should. It's owned and operated by a white guy who does actual good ally work. He uses the protection his male privilege affords him to document and call out MRA activities and general bullshit. Mostly bullshit, really. They don't have many activities other than whining. Except for harassing women, of course.

Here's a good starting point for those who don't know much about MRA's or other anti-feminist hate tactics:

7 Tactics of Highly Effective Harassers: How A Voice for Men’s Internet Hate Machine works

I've had this bookmarked for a while and finally read it. It's 100% consistent with everything I've seen and experienced.

Again, imagine the good these men could do if they directed all of this energy they use being fucking horrible to, you know, actually helping men. Like the black men being killed by police. Oh wait, they're fucking racist, too.

Morning Announcements

Class was moved to today. Learning.

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Gif of the Day

Actual footage of a man being told he has male privilege.

Male as the Default

A lot of people don't know what I mean when I talk about male as the default state, but this article demonstrates it perfectly.

Male As The Neutral Default by Gwen Sharp, PhD.

Just looking at products for sale in stores or online, you can clearly see how male is considered to be a default state of humanity, while female is a special, other state.

Image of a house paint roller with black base next to a smaller paint roller with a purple base and wrapped in a cardboard sleeve with an image of a woman on it.

Image of two kid outfits for sale, one blue with "Awesome Kid" on the shirt and the other pink with "Awesome Girl" on the shirt.

A store aisle sign that says "Women's Deodorant" above and "Deodorant" below.

There are plenty more examples at the link.

Notice how these are for everyday items. Paint rollers. Deodorant. Clothes. But there's an increasing opposing trend of companies taking products that have become associated with women and femininity and making them MANLY and FOR MEN ONLY.

Image of a yogurt cup that says "POWERFUL YOGURT" and a bull-like logo next to the text "THE FIRST YOGURT FOR MEN."

Image of a scented candle that says "MANLY INDULGENCE" with a shirt collar logo and the scent is called "ivy league."

Image of a Dr. Pepper ad that says "All 23 flavors. Just 10 Manly Calories. IT'S NOT FOR WOMEN."

This happens because companies know that men won't touch stuff that they think is "feminine" because apparently masculinity is so fragile that a low-calorie soda or smelly candle can shatter it. So they have to go LOOK THIS THING IS MANLY MEN CAN TOUCH IT SEE MANLY MANLY MANLY POWER BULLS THE COLOR RED SUITS MAAAAAANLYYYYYYY.

It's like men have to keep everything in the universe they might touch separate from femininity. Now do you believe me when I say that the state of being a woman is considered bad? The worst thing imaginable for men is to be associated with anything considered womanly. It's hard not to feel like they really hate us.

Your Republican Presidential Candidate

This is a popular US Republican presidential candidate. He has many supporters. People support him.

[Gifset shows Ted Cruz and a speak with a microphone in front of a stage. 

Speaker says, "I want to warn everybody: I am asking this question because I know the liberal media will-"

Ted Cruz says, "No, I have not stopped beating my wife."

Next gif shows Ted Cruz laughing while the audience laughs along.]

Video here.

This actual bag of scum who joked about beating his wife is a serious US presidential candidate.

I mean, he has no chance at all against Hillary, but FUCK.

Monday, April 20, 2015

Gif of the Day

Happy Drugs Day.

David Shipley, Spitfire Capital Advisors


UPDATE 9/18/2017: After two and a half years, apparently actual Spitfire Capital Advisors contacted me to say that they found this old blog post, were appalled by David's behavior, and have fired him, citing among the reasons for his firing his behavior toward me all that time ago. I guess I should have just emailed them about it, because apparently they're a company with some moral standards. It keeps me going to know that even though I'm unimportant, a guy who treated me like that will face consequences. If you need advice on capital, Spitfire is alright.

Oh look, another misogynist using his full name while being grossly misogynistic on the Internet!

Did you Google David Shipley and/or his company to research him? Check out these screenshots of things he and his friend actually said on Twitter:

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I had called this guy out for telling a woman to "provide a source" on an easily Google-able statistic about female-led businesses getting only 7% of investment money. Because men are constantly tasking women with "proving" the existence of misogyny when the correct response of a privileged person is to give the oppressed the benefit of the doubt and use all that energy you have from not being oppressed to do the research yourself. I also explained that it was a function of privilege that he was even surprised at the 7% statistic, because I sure wasn't.

After a lengthy argument about male privilege and him pretty much being your standard ignorant super privileged dude who gets super offended when you suggest that he's part of the problem, he decided that the best way to respond to my challenges was to invite a female Twitter friend to start making gross misogynistic "jokes" like this at me. Because hahahaha saying things that men in power actually still believe and say all the time because they literally think women are inferior is so funny hahahaha edgy shit, bro.

But David Shipley is not a 13-year-old boy. He's a grown man with a company. If you don't want to give money to a misogynist with the maturity of a 13-year-old boy, I suggest you find a different company.

Funny thing is, as soon as I said that I was going to screenshot his tweets for distribution, he blocked me and set his account to protected status. It even looks like he's taken down his LinkedIn account. So clearly, he knew that what he was doing was wrong and chose to do it anyway. Not the actions of a good person who deserves professional success, I think.

If you check his Twitter account now (it's now open again), you can see him spending his spare time trying to say that gratuitous gawking at women isn't harassment and posting and agreeing with an article saying that we shouldn't prosecute old men who sexually abused children a lot of years ago. 

Do you want to hire a child rapist advocate? Do you?

Just trying to inform the innocent consumers.

US Anti-Black Racism Update


Here we go.

Police and city officials resign after Missouri town elects first black female mayor

The majority of the police force of a small Missouri town resigned last week after the municipality’s first black female mayor officially took office. 
Citing “safety concerns,” five of the six officers comprising the Parma, Mo. police force stepped down once Mayor Tyrus Byrd was sworn in on Tuesday.

Wow okay I guess bye don't let the door hit your racist ass on the way out.

This is literally what black women still have to deal with in the United States of America in the year 2kfucking15. One becomes mayor and almost the entire police force reveals themselves to be racist babies who take their balls and go home.

I'm just easing you in. This next one's super awful.

Black suspect dies after Baltimore cops break his spine in ‘brutal’ police beating

Do you have any idea how badly you have to beat someone to break their spine?


The 27-year old [Freddie Gray] was arrested last week for an undisclosed violation. The police said that he was restrained on the ground by an officer during the arrest, but appeared to be fine when he was taken to the district station. However, a cell phone video shows that the arresting officers used force that some may seen as “brutal.”


Anything else in the news? Let me just scroll through Tumblr for 15 seconds.


Memorial tree for Michael Brown cut in half, stone memorial missing

Setting fire to his regular memorial wasn't enough, so they decided to chop down his memorial tree. CLASSY AS FUCK, AMERICA.


This is such a cute story, brace yourselves.

Parrots in burning house call "help" and "fire"

When firefighters arrived, they heard noises inside the house which led them to believe there were people inside. 
Once they got the flames contained, though, they discovered that the noises were actually coming from two parrots that were "talking". 
Firefighters say the birds were actually saying "Help!" and "Fire!" 
Crews removed the birds from the home and gave them oxygen. They are expected to be all right.

At the link you can see a photo of one of the parrots all cuddled inside a firefighter's vest being given oxygen.

Maybe other people don't think parrots are adorable and amazing but I do. They didn't cry for help because they were imitating someone, because no one was home at the time. They knew that there was a fire and that the correct response was to call for help and say "fire!"


Friday, April 17, 2015

Gif of the Day

Oh shit.

The US is Actually Not Better

This CNN article is amazing for two reasons.

Women in the world: Where the U.S. falters in quest for equality

Not only is this great for shoving in the faces of those guys who demand that feminist in the US stop talking about problems in the US because THOSE OTHER COUNTRIES™ have it so much worse, so we of course can't address any issues that might actually be perpetuated by the dudes demanding we focus on Other Countries™, how very convenient.

Actually, dudes, the US kinda sucks a lot. We're not better than Sudan. Or Palau. Or Thailand. Or Ecuador. Or Afghanistan.

It also works for those unfortunate white feminists who talk about countries like the ones above like they need our grand White Feminist Help™ because they're too shitty to help themselves. Check it out, my fellow white feminists! The US is worse than a lot of countries in a lot of ways! So please stop.

This is the Worst


I was just scrolling through Tumblr and I came across something that I had to read five times because I couldn't believe my eyes.


This is a real thing that exists in our universe. A bunch of cishet dudes wearing flannel to show "anti-gay support."

Privileged people want to act like they're oppressed SO BAD that they'll wear flannel all day. At least there's a handy way to spot bigots at McGuffey High School.

I hope they get detention until the day they graduate.

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Gif of the Day


Recommended Reading

Hold the Applause: Why Backlash Against Indiana’s Homophobic Religious Freedom Bill Isn’t Really About Social Justice

This piece, posted on one of the best websites ever, points out the very important intersection of LGBTQAIP+ issues and classism. Classism is unique in that it is almost always intersecting with other forms of oppression, as oppressed groups universally have lesser access to employment, financial resources, and community support. This is why issues faced by white women get more attention than those experienced more often or exclusively by women of color, and it's why issues experienced by rich white gay people get more attention and support than trans issues or problems like the homelessness among LGBTQAIP+ persons.

And it's why you should always be somewhat skeptical when so many corporations are supporting a social justice cause. What are their real motives? Read the article by KJ Ward to find out.

Amazing Women of Color

Unsurprisingly, I only recently heard of the modern feminist revolution going on over in China.

Five Chinese feminists held over International Women's Day plans.

Apparently, in China, you can be detained for "picking quarrels and creating a disturbance," which is like all feminists do (and proud of it), so of course these Chinese feminists are 10,000% more awesome than me and my fellow white feminists. Also it gets them arrested.

I believe all but one of them have now been released but are still facing charges.

The protests they've been doing are also super badass.

Li Tingting, better known as Li Maizi, took part in an “Occupy the Men’s Toilets” campaign to demonstrate the inadequacy of women’s facilities and has paraded through the streets in a wedding dress splashed with blood to increase awareness of domestic violence.

Damn. I've never marched in a wedding dress covered in blood.

Anyway, these amazing feminists need our support. Spread the word.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Gif of the Day

Ben Wyatt drunk is my favorite kind of drunk.


So about yesterday. I know I always post a gif at the end of the day and I didn't but don't worry, I'm fine. I just had an excessive amount of heavy life stuff come up.

And another thing that happened is that my friend introduced me to the poetry of Andrea Gibson. I'm not normally much of a poetry person and used to be bored to death by slam poets in college, but they apparently just weren't any good.

This is her poem about catcalling, and it's the best thing ever:

I'm in love. I'm gonna transcribe this if I can find the time. Andrea Gibson, please love me back.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Morning Announcements

I'm picking up my friend from the airport right now, because that's what friends do.

Animated gif of Finn hugging Jake and saying "Homies help homies, always."

Monday, April 13, 2015

Gif of the Day

This makes a lot more sense because men complain more than anyone in the universe.

Recommended Reading


More brilliance by Brittney Cooper.

Black death has become a cultural spectacle: Why the Walter Scott tragedy won’t change White America’s mind

This piece reflects the same sentiment of my piece about demands for proof. There's proof of widespread anti-black racism right in front of all of our white faces, but what good has that done? What's changed? What will it take for my fellow white people to stop dismissing each every-28-hours incident as "isolated"?

Police officers (of all races and genders) routinely act with excessive force and callous disregard toward Black people. But Black people’s witness of racial atrocity is never believed on its own merits. Instead, white people need to be able to pull up a chair and watch the lynchings take place over and over again, to DVR them, fast forward and rewind through them, to smother Black pain and outrage and fear in an avalanche of cold, “rational” analysis. Meanwhile, minds rarely change.

Read the whole thing. This is required reading if you're white.


One thing I consistently deal with from anti-feminists and other misogynists is the constant demand for "proof" of my and other women's lived experiences. We say we deal with threats and harassment online, and we get calls for "proof." We talk about how we get cat-called and stalked on the street, but somehow we have to "prove" it or it didn't happen. Sexual harassment and rape jokes at like every job we've ever had? Prove it. Mansplaining and the constant assumption that we're less competent with technology? Prove it. Dismissed and gaslighted about our own experience? PROVE IT.

My favorite sentence ever crafted is probably Lindy West's: "Like, you might as well write me a note on a banana peel demanding that I prove to you that bananas exist."

Most recently (I woke up to this shit today), I was asked to provide "proof" to back up a complaint that anti-feminists are constantly derailing feminist conversations to demand that we switch our attention to problems that men face, and then when we point out that addressing toxic masculinity and male violence will solve pretty much all of these man problems, they go right into "you can't stop bad people from doing bad things, there will always be bad people, you just have to deal with it, etc." They wanted proof that men had actually said these things to me.

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I had to laugh. Asking me to pinpoint one time this scenario has occurred is like asking a tall person to identify an exact instance in which someone made a joke about "the weather up there." It's happened on Facebook, on Twitter, on Tumblr, on message boards. It's happened to me and I've observed it happening to other women.

The funny thing is that this particular post of mine was quite old. I don't remember when I posted it, but it was at least several months ago. How they managed to find it is a mystery, but I can guarantee you that if the proof-demander had spent as much time actually reading my Tumblr blog and going through arguments I've had with anti-feminists and other crap baskets on that site as they did digging up old, dead posts of mine, they wouldn't need proof because they would have seen it with their own eyes already.

The irony and hypocrisy goes so deep that it in and of itself is proof of systemic, cultural misogyny. The only reason anyone would need proof of sexism in our society is that they haven't been listening to women at all. There are multitudes of websites dedicated to sharing the millions of stories of women about how they've been harassed and abused by men. There are scores of studies on the subject of domestic violence, rape, sexual harassment, workplace discrimination, educational discrimination, and general misogynistic attitudes. Women have written plenty of books on the subject. If you really want proof, it's out there. It's all over.

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What else do you want proof of? That the sky is blue? That the sun is hot? That it hurts when someone smacks you in the face? That oxygen exists?

Open your eyes. Stand in the sunlight. Breathe and feel the sting of my hand across your fucking face.

These demands for proof only show that the proof-demander has failed to do even the most rudimentary research. That they've failed to or outright refused to (more likely) listen to women. It's funny, though, because you know these online anti-feminists dedicate a whole lot of time to go through feminist writings just so they can scream "PROVE IT" at every opportunity. If they weren't so hardcore dedicated to their denial and their unshakable belief that feminists (women) are liars, they would be pretty well educated on systemic misogyny and would probably be advocates for feminism by now.

But either their too dedicated to their own misogyny, or the "prove it" calls are a calculated or subconscious tactic to derail feminist discourse and put women on the defensive. It's difficult not to be drawn in by these demands for proof simply because it's so enraging to be basically accused of lying about things we experience every fucking day. Telling someone that their own reality is not valid is a terribly cruel and dehumanizing thing to do, and is also a standard form of gaslighting - it's meant to make us doubt our own reality.

I once had an argument with a guy on The Escapist's message board, which I used to treasure as my online home until the backlash against reasonable demands for decent representation of women made it inhabitable. He, among other men there, were insisting that harassment of women wasn't a big thing. He said that my own experiences weren't good enough as "proof" of a widespread problem because they were just mine, and my assertion that every other woman I'd talked to had similar experience wasn't good enough, either.

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This was, of course, maddening, but I pushed through and implored him to look through Everyday Sexism and read all of the thousands upon thousands of stories there alone submitted by women about sexism, harassment, and male violence. I pushed him to, practically begged him to read through some of them so that he could get an idea of how big the problem was. So that he could have his "proof." Because you just can't deny that many stories.

His response, after several posts asking him to do this? "No, I don't care to."

I was taken aback. This was early in my awakening to my current feminist state, and so I wasn't prepared for this reality. Many men just don't care to listen to women. They don't care to turn their attention to a problem that we've been begging them to address for centuries. They don't care to make an effort to even start to understand issues which have been holding us back, hurting us, and killing us for so long.

They don't care about us.

I engage anti-feminists for fun, to get myself pumped up for writing, and to expose their ignorance and intense misogyny to observers of the argument. And a little bit in the hope that I'll make them cry. But don't for one second think that I have any hope that anti-feminist men will be changed by my words. No matter what I say to them, no matter how much evidence I could ever provide, no matter how many stories I could lay at their feet, no matter how well and how eloquently I explained that the problems women face are real, valid, life-threatening and worth their attention, they will not change. They will not consider our point of view. They will not make the effort to educate themselves. They will not show women the basic level of human compassion and decency.

They don't care to.

Look At This Awesome Thing: Sit Down




Oh my god I am in love. Thank god for Janelle Monae. Thank. God.

Friday, April 10, 2015

Gif of the Day

How to deal with any boy who tries to kiss you without consent.

Afternoon Announcements

I'm kind of taking a journalism class right now that meets on Fridays and includes reading and homework (never thought I'd do that again) but will improve my already mad skills. So I might not blog much on Fridays or as much overall because I'll be even busier than normal. But don't worry, my few regular fans and dedicated troll stalkers. I will never stop blogging, because I love it so very much. In fact, I'm making it a Facebook page soon. Because we all know how great Facebook is hahahahahahahahaha.

Love you guys.

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Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Dr. House in sunglasses with a big boom box on his shoulder, doing a little dance with his cane

Video represenation of me at work.

International Romani Day


Today is International Romani Day, which serves to celebrate Romani (Rromani, Rroma) culture and raise awareness about the rampant human rights abuses against them.

Most people in the US are very much unaware of what Romani peoples deal with because they are hardly found in the US. A lot of USians won't even recognize the word "Romani."

Romani is the correct term for those who are still often referred to as "gypsies." A lot of white people in the US will try to refer to themselves as such as some kind of hippie bullshit about what free spirits they are, unaware of the fact that the word is a racial slur. Do not use that word. Also do not use the word "gypped." That word is derived from the word "gypsy" because of the stereotype that Romani persons are cheaters and swindlers.

The Romani are still subjected to widespread racist discrimination in Europe, including workplace and housing discrimination, police abuse, denial of health care, forced evictions, educational discrimination, and everything else you can think of. Romani individuals are spit on and assaulted in the streets at random. They suffer high rates of poverty and tend to live in "isolated slums."

It's fucking horrifying, and no one really seems to care.

If you care, start by reading this Amnesty International report on the history of and ongoing abuse of these people. And for the love of god, don't call yourself a fucking gypsy and stop appropriating their culture, fellow white women.

Petition to Not Shame Sex Workers for $$$

Remember that post that I just titled "NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO"? As promised, here's a petition I wrote to make that shit stop:

Cancel Show That Traps and Shames Sex Workers

It doesn't have many signatures and I'm not surprised. People care more about animals than they do about sex workers.

U.S. Anti-Black Racism Update


Walter Scott. You've probably already heard. I should have posted about him sooner but the repetition of the story depresses me and I tend to be avoidant, but I'm white so I need to push through that because I can only imagine (and not really, though) how depressing it would be if I were black.

I watched the video. It could not be more clear. Walter Scott begins to run away from the officer as he draws his gun. As Scott is running away, the cop shoots directly at him several times until Scott falls to the ground. The cop then goes over, handcuffs Scott's unmoving body, then walks away, and comes back to Scott's body and clearly drops an item which looks to be the exact size and shape and color of the taser that the cop said Scott stole from him, causing the officer to "fear for his life."

I would not have been surprised if, even with the video clearly showing Patrolman Michael Thomas Slager, white man, murdering Walter Scott, black man, the cop was not even charged with anything. However, thanks to the bravery of the individual who shot the footage, Slager has actually been charged with murder.

And already there are online funding campaigns up to support the murderer. Though GoFundMe rejected a campaign to raise money for Slager, IndieGoGo did not. Apparently there's no limit to what a white person can do to clearly murder a black man to prevent racists from sending him money.

Unfortunately, Slager is still super unlikely to be convicted because it's so hard to convict a cop of anything. But we can hope, and we can take to the streets if Scott doesn't get justice.

I'm really afraid for the individual who videoed the murder, though, because of this article about how they jailed the man who shot video of Eric Garner being murdered and now it appears that they are seriously trying to fucking kill him, oh my god.

Man Imprisoned After Filming Eric Garner’s Death, Refusing to Eat, Rat Poison Found in Jail Food

It was reported by the New York Post last month that 19 different inmates were denied medical testing after bluish green pellets were found in their food. The prison admitted that these pellets were rat poison, but failed to give the inmates medical attention, and failed to offer any kind of explanation as to why the prison’s food was tainted with rat poison.

This is your U.S. justice system, people.

Look At This Awesome Thing: LEGO Golden Girls

Omg omg omg omg omg omg omg omg.

A highly detailed The Golden Girls Lego set, which includes a recreation of the foursome’s regular late-night kitchen chats, has been accepted into the Lego Ideas program—and it’s only 10,000 votes away from production.

 If you didn't already know, I fucking love The Golden Girls.

And so does everyone else, apparently, because this set is now less than 1,500 votes away from production with plenty of time to spare. You can go make a LEGO account and vote for it if you want, but it's probably not necessary.

I'm so buying this shit.

Image of Golden Girls LEGO set with the four girls in the kitchen, complete with Sophia cooking at the stove.
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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Gif of the Day

Me after burning everything because like I said before, ONLY WITH FIRE.

"What Rape Culture?"


Judge says mandatory sentence for man convicted of raping toddler too harsh, cuts prison time.

“In looking at the facts of Mr. Rojano’s case, the manner in which this offense was committed is not typical of a predatory, violent brutal sodomy of a child case,” Kelly said. “Mr. Rojano did not seek out or stalk (the victim). He was playing video games and she wandered into the garage. He inexplicably became sexually aroused but did not appear to consciously intend to harm (the victim) when he sexually assaulted her,” the newspaper reported.

Kelly being the judge, who is also a dude.

Who decided that the child rapist "inexplicably" became aroused and then I guess became unconscious and assaulted the girl while fucking sleepwalking or something.

This world can only be cleansed with fire.

Autism Is

Speaking of autism, I just found this great post on Tumblr by an autistic person explaining to a message from someone asking why they would want to "preserve" autism. It pretty much answers all your allistic questions.

Check out the response on their blog here.

It's short, but the whole thing is incredible. Especially this:

Autism is not the terror, the disaster, the monster you have been taught it is. Autism is my hands flapping happily when a pretty song comes on, Autism is me staying up for hours researching my favourite topic, Autism is me quacking to communicate, Autism is the calm I feel when I’m in a small quiet dark room, Autism is me interpreting your sarcasm as literal, Autism is my mind shutting down when I have too much sensory input, Autism is me not recognising faces, Autism is feeling my emotions so intensely, Autism is so many of my experiences, positive and negative and a bit of both.

Autism is only difficult because we allistic people make it difficult for them.

Representation Matters

So April 2nd was World Autism Awareness Day, and I'm sad to say that I missed it. It's incredibly important that people become more aware of autism-related issues, specifically how those on the autism spectrum are treated like problems to be solved. Many of those actually on this spectrum don't want to be cured. They don't think of the way their minds work as a problem or a burden on others, but simply as something outside the norm.

And isn't that fantastic? For people who are different than the majority of the population to accept themselves and declare that they're not actually a burden just because other people won't bother to educate themselves on how to interact with someone on the autism spectrum?

As I've explained before, it's not hard.

But people don't educate themselves. They expect anyone whose mind or body functions differently from the norm to adjust to everybody else, no matter how difficult that is. Or they'd rather just pour tons of money and energy into finding a "cure" rather than just making minor adjustments in their own behavior around autistic people. Um.

So we have to rely on representation in media to educate the general population. There are a lot of harmful stereotypes about autistic people, and a lot of allistic people don't even understand that there's a spectrum. But if they can play some video games with accurate representations of autistic people, they might start to get it.

Check this out:

Writing characters, not symptoms: A gamer with autism discusses what our hobby gets wrong

You'll find on this list one game that actually gets it right, which I now plan to purchase, called To the Moon. If you really want to become aware of autism and like video games, consider getting this one. Also, Google is your friend, and avoid Autism Speaks.

Monday, April 6, 2015

Gif of the Day

Okay then.

On Sorry and Forgiveness

The point of this blog is of course to counter the impulse of women to constantly apologize for everything, including and especially our existence - an impulse given to us by our patriarchal society. But there's another thing that we women are expected to do without question, and that's to forgive.

When men say they're sorry, we're expected to instantly forgive them. Not just forgive, but to say that they shouldn't have even felt the need to apologize. What do you say to people when they say they're sorry to you? Do you say "it's okay"? Because that's what's been coming out of my mouth for about as long as I could speak.

What does "it's okay" mean? Doesn't it mean that whatever behavior the person is apologizing for is okay? In other words, that what they did is not bad, and therefore they don't even need to apologize, let alone stop doing what they're doing? Think about how you feel when someone apologizes to you. Do you feel a twinge of guilt that you made someone else feel bad enough to apologize, and now you want to make it better by telling them it's okay?

Doesn't this just perfectly fit the pattern of women being expected to cater to the every need of men?

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And beyond that, people in general are expected to forgive pretty much instantly the moment an apology comes out of someone's mouth, regardless of how shitty it is. If you refuse to forgive, suddenly you're the asshole. Think of all the messages you've received about how important it is to "forgive and forget" and how forgiving people is soooooooo great for you. If you don't forgive, then you're just bitter, right? And nobody's bitter like women, right?

I'll never forget the first time someone told me that I don't actually have to forgive people who have wronged me in order to be an emotionally healthy person. I was shocked. But also incredibly relieved. Because there are people I don't want to forgive, and there are people whom I don't think it's a good idea to let my guard down around. Forgiveness implies that you trust someone again, and some people just should not be trusted.

So I want to spread the idea that not only should women stop being sorry, but we should stop recklessly forgiving people. Stop forgiving people who don't deserve it. Stop forgiving people who haven't changed. Stop saying "it's okay" when people apologize and say "I accept your apology" or, if you don't yet accept it, say "I hear you." Know that it's okay not to forgive, it's okay to hold off on forgiveness until you're ready or have conditions to your forgiveness.

One thing I've had to learn the hard way is that apologies can easily be completely meaningless. And I'm not just talking about the shitty "I'm sorry you feel that way" apologies. Apologies that are considered "good" apologies, that take responsibility and don't put any blame on the victim can be totally meaningless. I've had a man apologize to me again and again for the same behavior, yet never change. He would apologize for his behavior and go right on doing the same shit over and over. He wasn't sorry and he didn't deserve forgiveness. People are only really sorry if their behavior changes. Until then, they don't even deserve us considering the idea of forgiving them.

No more willy nilly forgiving. If someone wronged you, they should work for forgiveness. They should have to demonstrate that they understand and they should have to change their behavior before they can be eligible for forgiveness. I'm sick of being expected to be pleasant to friends and family members who've been shitty to me just because they said they're sorry - because I'm expected to cater to their feelings because they said two words. No. You're not forgiven. My needs come first. It's not my job to act pleasant toward you so that you no longer have to feel guilty about what you did. So that YOU can forget. Fuck that. You did wrong, you deal with the guilt. 

I'm not sorry and it's not okay.

This is How You Ally

This video has been around for a while, and I finally watched it. It made me cry.

In One Video, These Students Remind Us What's Really at the Root of Rape Culture

And yeah, I realize that women have been saying all of this for eons and ignored, and that we shouldn't have to get a man to say it just so that other men will listen. And I shouldn't praise men for exhibiting basic levels of decency.

But it's hard not to get emotional when I see a man saying these things. Telling other men not to assault and owning his male privilege and explaining that it is men who are attacking women, not some anonymous invisible force. I've spent countless hours of my life trying to explain this shit to men and watching them not get it, and not get it, and not get it. Having to deal with them getting defensive and then dealing with that by going on the offensive, accusing me of being a man hater or being "delusional" or "overreacting" or wanting to be a victim. I've gotten this from random faceless dudes online, from friends of friends, from long-term friends I thought I could trust, and from family members.

I get that shit no matter how much effort I put into being nice, into catering to these men's feelings and assuring them that it's not their fault they were raised to think and act this way. I try and I try and I've seen so little results.

So when I see a guy like this who actually gets it, who actually really gets it, I get emotional. It reminds me that it is possible for men to get it, that there is hope. I know I shouldn't give cookies but I admit that I love this guy. He's so incredibly rare.

I also love the fact that there are so many people of color in this video and so few white people. That always makes something better.

Friday, April 3, 2015

Gif of the Day

Captain Janeway has no time for your mansplaining.

Recommended Reading

Recommended for sheer hilarity.

Things My Male Tech Colleagues Have Actually Said to Me, Annotated

This includes responses from the author Cate Burlington, of whom I am now a fan.


“It doesn’t have all the features; this is the soccer mom version.” Contact with the Soccer Mom (mater ludus) obviously requires special equipment and anti-contaminant protocol. They are highly infectious. Do not attempt to approach a Soccer Mom unless you are a trained professional.

This, by the way, is one of the least offensive things her colleagues have said to her. But one of my favorite responses.

Gee, why don't women pursue careers in STEM fields?

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