[TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE, SEXUAL ASSAULT, SEXUAL ABUSE, EATING DISORDERS, MENTAL ILLNESS, CHRONIC ILLNESS, DOMESTIC ABUSE, CHILD ABUSE]
One of the worst things about our patriarchal culture and about rape culture is that women are constantly told that every bad thing that happens to them is their fault. This can be extended to every other oppressed group. If we're assaulted, it's because of the way we were dressed or the place we were or how we walked. If we're sick, it's because of what we consume, regardless of whether we're in a financial situation that allows us to be able to consume healthier things. If we're abused, it's because we stayed with the abuser.
We didn't try hard enough. We didn't fight hard enough. We didn't just snap our fingers to make everything magically better, etc.
Either that, or we just automatically don't believe the victims.
That's why I love "I Believe You | It's Not Your Fault: Notes From Your Big Sister." It's a blog about pure support, acceptance, and love. It exists to counteract the victim-blaming, disbelieving and various other abusive messages constantly thrown at marginalized victims, survivors, and people struggling with illness. A lot of the stories submitted are about sexual assault and abuse, but there are stories about mental illness and eating disorders as well, and probably other illnesses (I haven't read it all yet). But every story has a common theme: explaining to others who suffer from the same thing that the author believes them, and it's not they're fault.
If you need something heartwarming, this is it.
Warning: Many of the stories are triggering. The blog mods post trigger warnings in the tags that show up at the end of each post, so you may want to scroll down and check those out before reading if you have triggers.