Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Phillip J. Fry blowing a party favor while looking bored.

Here's to going to bed by 11;30!

Recommended Reading


Teaching acceptance in schools could save transgender teens' lives

This needs to start happening now. It needed to happen years ago. Too many have died.

Let Leelah Alcorn be a wake up call. She shouldn't have had to give her life to be a wake up call to us cis people, but for the love of fuck, please. Intolerance kills.


Reformers pushing for changes to health education in U.S. schools also need to be including gender identity in comprehensive overhauls. Accurate, detailed, and respectful sexual education is key for young adults learning about their sexual identities and bodies, but so is education about gender. Students need to learn at an early age that gender is not static, that some people experience fluidity in their gender over time. They need to discover that for some people, gender is a more fixed entity, and they need to transition to feel comfortable in their bodies. They need to be introduced to concepts like gender play, and to more serious transgender issues. They need to learn that non-normative expressions of gender are OK.

Now. Now now now now now.

No more lost trans girls.

Look At This Awesome Thing: Foot Phone

That is Beyonce, dialing her foot like a phone, and screaming "I know you care!" at her foot. This is the best thing ever.

Also props to the girls in the background for holding that pose until they got the shot.

My New Year's Resolution

My New Year's resolution for 2015 is to be mean to men. More mean to more men, in my daily life as well as online.

Refuse to get out of the way of men walking down the street.
Interrupt men when they're talking.
Constantly play Devil's Advocate about the stuff that upsets them most.
Dismiss all their ideas, and if possible, praise the same ideas when they come from women.
Tell them to "calm down" at every opportunity.
Make fun of the simple things they enjoy as much as possible.
If they get upset about any of this, dismiss them as "hormonal."

I encourage all women to make the same pledge.

Make Men Mad 2k15.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of a corgi puppy with its head sticking out of a cardboard box as it tries to wiggle out

Be happy.

Activism Opportunity

In honor of Leelah Alcorn, I want to feature this scholarship fund for trans and gender-nonconforming youth.

TSER Scholarship Fund

If you have some extra cash in your bank account after the holidays, consider supporting trans youth and adults. They need our support so much.

Here are some resources for any trans people you know, or if you want other places to donate to:


Just a Joke: Not


Animated gif of Jim Carrey fake laughing as he turns away from the camera and at the last second his face turns to angry disgust
I'm starting a new thing where any time a troll suggests I stop blogging about a topic, I'm going to dedicate a blog post on that topic specifically to them. This post is dedicated to Matthew Lane.

This isn't new, but in case you were unaware, multiple studies have confirmed that sexist jokes and rape jokes are directly correlated with pro-rape attitudes. Before you jump in with the "correlation does not imply causation" bit, know that either way you look at it, it's bad. Either these jokes cause more pro-rape attitudes, or there are a whole lot of people with pro-rape attitudes already. And since rape apologists like to claim that rapists and pro-rape attitudes are super rare, there's really no winning for them here.

But let's look at how jokes affect the human mind. Many people say they make jokes to help them cope with terrible things. And it's true that making jokes allows you to distance yourself from an issue. For some people, this is an attempt at self-care. But the unintended effects are that you trivialize the issue. And remember that these jokes don't occur on a small scale. Rape jokes have become incredibly common, so even if they did start as an innocent attempt to make something awful seem more distant, the unintended effect is that we have kids on camera laughing about a girl being raped in the next room.

Much more common are various memes using rape as a joke, like the one with the creepy-looking sloth. The fact that this meme often includes an image of half a woman's face, which the sloth is whispering to, shows that these jokes are directed at women in particular, while failing to show the entire face of the woman.

Cutting out the face of a person in an image is a classic dehumanization technique. The language in these jokes is also very dehumanizing. And any basic research on dehumanization will show you how it's been systematically used throughout history to justify horrific treatment of human beings. Jokes have often been used to compare people of color and Jewish individuals to compare them to animals - a direct form of dehumanization. As soon as you can view someone as less than human, it becomes much easier to harm them.

At the same time, trivializing horrific crimes like rape have a clear effect of making rape seem like it's not a big deal. Many teen boys appear to feel that rape is not such a terrible thing. Obviously, if you can joke about it and laugh about it, it must not seem so terrible to you. That's the function of jokes, right? To distance yourself, make something seem not so bad?

And now here we have evidence of correlation between rape jokes and pro-rape attitudes.

So. A lot of rape jokes dehumanize women. They all trivialize the issue of rape. And the only other explanation for the correlation between these jokes and pro-rape attitudes is that people with pro-rape attitudes make the jokes, but there sure are a shit load of men and boys making these jokes.

You have to stretch pretty far to believe that rape jokes don't promote rape. And even if you do, the conclusion you land in is even more horrifying.

The Average Lifespan of Trans Women is 30 Years


Hoping that making that fact a headline will help to finally get some attention to the plight of trans women and girls. Widespread hatred and lack of acceptance, disrespect of their true selves, parents who refuse to acknowledge who they are or utterly turn their backs on their children (which is rank child abuse) - all of these things and more lead to extremely high suicide rates. And if they don't kill themselves, they still risk being murdered by random assholes on the street who feel their masculinity threatened by the very existence of trans women.

Leelah Alcorn is another in a long list of trans girls who have taken their lives. Her suicide note, left on her Tumblr account, is a window into the hopelessness of living as transgender in a community and household that doesn't accept you. 

There's a common line fed to LGBTQAIP+ kids, that "it gets better" when you're an adult and you can move away from toxic environments. But it doesn't work like this for trans kids. Like young Leelah expressed in her note, the longer you wait to get on hormones, the more your body grows into the gender you were assigned at birth. Trans girls with non-accepting parents have to watch as their shoulders broaden, their hips narrow, and their voice deepens. I can't imagine how horrible that must be, but it's enough to drive many to suicide. And this is made worse by the knowledge that if they can't sufficiently "pass" as their real gender, they risk being murdered.

For trans girls, it only gets worse.

We can't stand by and let this happen. We need to demand hormone therapy coverage in all insurance plans, demand widespread acceptance, and condemn any parents that disrespect the gender (or lack of gender) of their children. There is a horrific epidemic of suicide in this country and no one even knows about it.

Justice for Leelah. Justice for all trans women and girls. Protect them at all costs. No tolerance for bigots. 

Monday, December 29, 2014

Gif of the Day

I know it's past Christmas but

Animated of a guy walking down a hallway when suddenly someone throws him a pillow and a Santa appears and they start having a pillow fight

Amazing Women of Color

This happened back in April but I don't think anyone really noticed:

Plus-Sized Woman Rocks Bikini on Hollywood Boulevard to Promote Body Acceptance

It may have not made the news because this woman, Amani Terrell, is a black woman.

Amani Terrell in a bikini, high fiving a man as they pass each other on the street

The only shitty thing about this article is that it says she "knows she needs to lose weight." Actually, while she's allowed to lose weight if she chooses to, she doesn't "need" to do anything she doesn't want to. It's no one's business! But anyway, her responses to gross shitty men are awesome.

While cameras were rolling, one man told her she made him lose his appetite, and another called her “Precious,” as he snapped her picture. Still, Terrell shakes the haters off because she’s confident, no matter her size. What do you think? 
“That was very unkind,” she told the man. “But that’s cool because I love myself.”

Want to make fat haters mad? Share the story! You can follow Ms. Terrell on Twitter: @FatInLosAngeles.

U.S. Anti-Black Racism Update


I can't call these Ferguson updates anymore because this shit is nation-wide now. By which I mean it's getting attention nation-wide, because this shit has been happening all over the U.S. since, well, the entire history of the country.

*Eight-minute long sigh*


South Carolina: Autistic black man walks down the street, attempting to visit family on Christmas Eve. Runs into cops responding to a call about gunshots. When he fails to respond to police orders, because HE'S AUTISTIC, they taser the shit out of him.

But hey, at least they didn't kill him! But oh wait, they're fucking charging him with "resisting arrest" and threatened to taze his fucking mother when she tried to approach him to comfort him after he had been tazed.

This is the problem with the "obey police and you'll be fine" thing. Um, what if the person is autistic? Or has a developmental disorder? Can't speak? Is woozy from a car accident and doesn't know quite what's going on? What if they're deaf?

And even if you do manage to avoid getting killed, you could still be charged with resisting arrest and then you're fucked because, lol, it's you against the police! You can't fight the police in court even if the whole thing is recorded on video at close range, so.

And of course, the whole thing where any white person in the same situation would never have even been tasered, or even stopped probably.

North Carolina: Sheneque Proctor, 18, died in police custody after complaining of asthma problems and being ignored by officers. Due to the similarities in the incidents and the whole "I can't breathe" theme, she's being called the "female Eric Garner." But she's not the female version of any man. She's Sheneque Proctor, a young woman, and another example of a black woman who has suffered unnecessary death at the hands of police. Don't erase her name.

Berkeley, Missouri: Two miles from Ferguson, 18-year-old Antonio Martin was shot and killed by police. There are a lot of questions being posed about whether he was pointing a gun at cops or pointing a camera phone to film their activities. Terrifying to think that cops will murder black people for trying to film them, but not surprising, either. I, as usual, don't trust anything the police have to say about this incident because they've lied so much in the past. There is conveniently nothing but blurry convenience store camera footage of the incident, which has been cropped. Protests have been held. Little hope for justice.

All of this here.

It's completely ridiculous, by the way, for people to be asked to stop their protests for two days when cops are killed by a man who had no activist record and no connection to any protests, when THIS COUNTRY CAN'T GO TWO DAYS WITHOUT A COP OR VIGILANTE KILLING A BLACK PERSON. And nothing stops when any of them are killed. Because if anything had to stop for two days, it could literally never be started again. Because every 28 hours. Murdered black kids don't even get the respect of a proper investigation, or having their bodies covered up rather than being left in the street for hours, or anything resembling justice. So FUCK anyone asking for the protests to stop out of respect for two dead cops.

Can We Talk About This?


Denial is an interesting thing. Have you ever noticed how denial will not only continue in the face of overwhelming evidence, but the more evidence that comes to light, the more adamant and louder the denial becomes? It's desperation, obviously. Especially when it comes to society-wide issues. More evidence against you means that more people might come to believe what you don't want them to believe. And some people will go to great lengths to keep the denial going, even to the point of attempting to silence the voices that are pushing the evidence. Through threats, violence, and murder.

I know this is the reality of it, but it still shocks me over and over how anybody can still deny rape culture. Rape culture is the normalization of rape. Trivializing it. You think rape culture doesn't exist? Then please explain to me why every single time my boyfriend starts watching a new show, there's rape in it? Or attempted rape, at the very least. I swear to god, any show that's at all trying to seem "edgy" has a mandatory sexual assault quota for like every episode.

This scares the shit out of me, and it should scare the shit out of you, too. First off, I don't know how survivors even watch TV anymore. But beyond that, what is this doing to people who are not survivors? Feminists are making progress in combating rape culture, bringing attention to it, getting college campuses to accept new rules for dealing with rapists. But at the same time, is media getting worse? How many times do young men have to see implied, attempted, or actual rape scenes on TV before it becomes No Big Deal? Before it becomes standard?


Rape culture denialists might say that rape is depicted as bad in media. That's not what I'm seeing. I see rape used as shock value at best, but more often to titillate. New Netflix original series Marco Polo. A woman's brother tells his soldiers that they can go ahead and gang rape her. When they tell her this, she gets naked, then kills them all. Yes, it's good that they're all dead. But why did she have to get naked? Do I even have to ask? The mixing of violence and sexual images is deeply disturbing, and it only happens when women are involved. A man would never strip before killing a bunch of dudes, and I guarantee that would be just as much of a surprise and "distraction" to his enemies.

Do something for me. Put on a fight scene from something between a man and a woman and just listen to it. Don't watch, just listen. Then listen to a sex scene. Notice the similarities in the noises the woman makes? Isn't that a little fucked up?

And do we ever see the real consequences after a woman is raped? Do we get to witness her PTSD? How any little thing can bring her back to that moment? How she's denied support? How the world fails her? No. I see a woman fight a man, lose, and then he rips her athletic pants off. The scene cuts away, and I don't think I'll ever even see the woman again.

It is not acceptable to use rape as a way to promote "realism" or to show how terrible the bad guys are. You don't risk normalizing and trivializing something so terrible just for fucking ratings. First of all, your Marco Polo show is not realistic in the least anyway. Second, you can be so much more creative in letting everyone know how awful a human being is. But no, it's rape. It's always rape. Rape scenes are becoming the new sex scenes, I swear to god.

And it scares the shit out of me. Because you do get desensitized to violence, and it's no different with sexual violence. But this is worse, because this is violence that is almost exclusively (at least in media) targeting a specific portion of the population - the one that is already oppressed and already suffers sexual assault at a greater rate. Women are used so much by men. We're used to sell your products, we're used to motivate your fictional heroes, and now we're used to show how fucking edgy your HBO program is. It's a form of dehumanization. Women are dehumanized in these rape scenes. Rape scenes meant to titillate and get attention. Sexual violence sexualized. Honestly, I don't have a single doubt that many men are aroused by these rape scenes, and that's exactly why the creators of these shows use them so much.

Let's be honest with ourselves. Sex sells, right? And when rape is so sexy, why not use that to sell?

And people ask me why I'm so angry. My question is, why are you so desperate to deny reality? Because denial would be the only thing that could keep anyone from being angry about this.

Thursday, December 25, 2014

Gif of the Day

I'm so fucking happy I found this. It was like an early Christmas present.

Merry Christmas, if you celebrate it.

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Homer Simpson with a big sack and Santa hat and Santa's Little Helper in reindeer antlers, sneaking down the street "The Grinch Who Stole Christmas" style


Morning Announcements

Today is for baking, so I'll be baking. And of course tomorrow is family time, so I won't be around to post then, either. But I will leave you will a very nice Vine. (And gifs, of course.)

Merry whatever!

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of a woman sticking a "kick me" sign to the back of a guy sitting at a counter and winking at the camera with the caption "Misandry"


Recommended Reading

Hey, women have been saying this for a buttload of years, but maybe now that a man has said it, you'll fucking listen. Trigger warning for ableist language and mention of a serial rapist.

Men Just Don't Trust Women. And This Is A Problem.

But you know what I don’t really trust? What I’ve never actually trusted with any women I’ve been with? Her feelings. 
If she approaches me pissed about something, my first reaction is “What’s wrong?”
My typical second reaction? Before she even gets the opportunity to tell me what’s wrong? “She’s probably overreacting.”  
My typical third reaction? After she expresses what’s wrong? “Ok. I hear what you’re saying, and I’ll help. But whatever you’re upset about probably really isn’t that serious.”

This is how I've been treated all my life, mostly by men. But also by women. It gets so bad that we assume each other are overreacting to everything.

This despite the fact that men have started numerous wars over personal slights and family grudges, and send death threats over video games.

And this is why, if you ever tell my I'm overreacting to anything, in any situation, I will write you off with enthusiasm.

"There's No REAL Sexism Anymore"



This is a super good idea for an experiment and I might have to go around the Internet doing shit like this and then write a long article on it.

Merry Christmas Adam

This is my favorite thing about Christmas, swear to god.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Gif of the Day

I don't know.

Feminist Music


This is a new track that a friend shared with me yesterday. It's amazing. The video is a little fucked up. But you get to see abusive men die!

Emilie Autumn is also an advocate for people who suffer from mental illness.

Representation Matters

I've got some feminist music to share for later, but first, check out the world's first (recognized, at least) amputee pop artist. Her name is Viktoria Modesta, and she has an amazing music video for her song Prototype featuring her in a number of fucking amazing prosthetic legs.

"Forget what you know about disability."

Representation matters.

This is Some Next Level Irony


Soooooo. I don't even know how to respond to this. But some counter-protesters to the anti-racist police brutality protesters went out to "support police" wearing shirts that say "I Can Breathe."

And they're all white. White people. Wearing shirts that say "I Can Breathe." To support cops. As a counter-protest to the people saying "I can't breathe."

Photo of white men wearing "I Can Breathe" shirts

But. But. But we know. We know you can breathe. Because you're white. That's the entire point. You see. Because. You know.

How badly do you have to miss the point to wear a shirt like this as a pro-cop protester?!?!????!!!?!

You would almost think that they understand their own white privilege, but no. Their ignorance of their privilege goes so deep that it comes full circle. I honestly can't even fathom what was going through their heads when they decided to make these shirts. And I'm white.


“We’re supporting law and order. We support the police. We believe they are the thin blue line that supports us and protects us,” said Phillip McManus, a Rockaway, Queens resident. Mr. McManus was clenching an American flag. 
“You know what? We’re not going to block traffic. We’re going to follow the law,” he added. “This is what happens when you have a government that runs amok and doesn’t represent the people.”


Animated gif of woman flipping through cue cards that all say "go on."

This is too much.

Friday, December 19, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Gaius Baltar from Battlestar Galactica shouting "No more Mr. Nice Gaius!"

Oh, Gaius.

Misandry Time

Everyone needs a little bit of misandry to brighten up their day.

LOL it's funny because that's exactly how men treat women all the time, whether in actual interactions with women or how they're depicted in media!

Hypocrisy Everywhere


U.S. cops murder yet another in a seemingly endless series of innocent, unarmed black people = Well they totally deserved it, support cops.

Sony cancels all showings of The Interview after threats from North Korea = THE END OF ALL FREEDOM FOREVER.

U.S. police arresting far more black and Hispanic people for drug offenses than white people even though white people use more drugs per capita and then forcing prisoners into slave labor = Meh, whatever.

Look to your own sins, you fucks.

(Honestly, I think people should lay off of Sony. I would have cancelled the showings of yet another Seth Rogan movie too if I thought it could literally save lives.)

Dishonesty in Anti-Choice Arguments

Have you ever noticed how every single argument used by anti-choicers either rely on dishonesty or are outright lies? From screaming "IT'S MURDER" to their lies about the health effects of abortion to this gem:

Proposed Bill Would Require Women To Ask Men's Permission To Have An Abortion

Brattin introduced the bill on December 3 for the next legislative session, but it has not moved yet in the Missouri House. He said he was inspired to change the laws around abortion consent because he was required to obtain his wife's consent before having a vasectomy. 
There are no laws in the United States, however, requiring men to seek permission from women before having a vasectomy.

It was actually his insurance policy that required him to get his wife's signature, to cover their asses. So either this guy is lying, or we have yet another lawmaker in this country who is incredibly fucking ignorant about shit like HOW HEALTHCARE WORKS and WHAT IS AND IS NOT AN ACTUAL LAW.

Either way is terrible. And do I need to point out how horrible and petty it is for someone to come across something that they think is unfair, and their solution is to create a law imposing the same shit upon women? And for what? Revenge? Or just because he's looking for any reason in the universe to try and control the bodies of people who can become pregnant, who he thinks are only women?

If all your arguments are based on shit like this, your core belief is shit.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of a little boy running away from a display dinosaur, screaming "Oh my gosh! He just sneezed on me!"

This is part of a gifset but I think it's funnier out of context.



I am so so so so so so so sososososossososoSOSOSOSO TIRED OF HAVING TO POST ABOUT THIS KIND OF SHIT.

Dalhousie University probes misogynistic student 'Gentlemen's Club'

In one post, members were polled and asked, "Who would you hate f--k?" They were given two names to vote on. 
Another post shows a woman wearing a bikini. The caption says, "Bang until stress is relieved or unconscious (girl)."


Those Humorless Anti-Feminists

I love love love that there's a whole "humorless feminist" trope when anti-feminists are the most humorless bunch in the universe. Feminists are constantly making jokes that go right over their heads.

Remember that "experiment" where a woman decided to stop moving out of the way of men? Check it out:

[Comment text: This is the type of feminist outlook that makes me ashamed to be a female in this society. If there is proof that not only did your sister have unbiased intentions when beginning this "social experiment", and that the men were doing merely to be an asshole, there may be a gram of validity to the argument. But, did your sister watch to see if there were just as many females that didn't move, or just men? Bias will create any situation if you're looking for it. This is not a gender argument. This is an "asshole" argument, and perhaps the... (screenshot cuts off here)]

LOL. SHELLY THOUGHT IT WAS A REAL EXPERIMENT. Or that's what she's acting like. It's a TWEET, Shelly, gawd, learn to take a JOKE, Shelly.

Animated gif of women laughing

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Beyonce strutting toward the stage with a bunch of men in black leather following her obediently

Nothing makes me happier than seeing a woman with a bunch of subservient male lackeys trailing her.

Anti-Feminist Logic


These are the same people who say "you can't stop rape, there will always be bad people who do bad things even if it's illegal."

Also, "its-called-deduction-use-it" LMAO.

Breathe Easy, Don't Be Black

Oh my fucking god with these cops.

Indiana Cop Designs ‘Breathe Easy, Don’t Break the Law’ Shirts

This photo of the Indiana police officer says it all.

Photo of a very white cop on the news with his mouth hanging open

"Just don't break the law, and you'll be fine!" says the white cop.

Oh, okay. Sure. Just one question. Where are the shirts for all the black people killed by cops who weren't doing anything illegal?

Tamir Rice: Playing with a toy gun in a public park. Dead.

Tarika Wilson: Standing in her home, holding her 1-year-old son. Dead.

John Crawford: Holding a BB gun in a Walmart in an open carry state. Dead.

Rekia Boyd: Walking in the park. Dead.

Kenneth Chamberlain: Accidentally presses his Life Alert button in his own home, tells cops who show up that he's fine. Dead.

Yvette Smith: Opening the door for police at their request. Dead.

Jonathan Ferrell: Seeks help after injured in a car accident. Dead.


Badass Women Everywhere

What are men even doing anymore, besides complaining and ruining everything?

18 Badass Women You Probably Didn’t Hear About In 2014

Most of them are women of color. Because women of color do all the most badass things and never get any credit. Hell, women in Turkey made their own party. It's the Woman Party. I WANT A WOMAN PARTY. WHO'S WITH ME?

Animated gif of an old lady slamming her door in the face of a bunch of men with the caption "MISANDRY 4 LYFE"

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Gif of the Day

This elephant is picking up trash and putting it in a trash can.

Shit like this makes me want to join Greenpeace and just.

Fun Experiment of the Day

Tweet by @annabreslaw

[Tweet  text - My sister is doing an experiment: Whenever men walk towards her, she doesn't move out of the way first. So far she has collided with 28 men.]

Conclusion: Men are asswipes.

This is How You Ally

You've probably heard of the hostage situation that took place in Sydney, Australia. During that terrifying situation, the hostage-taker displayed an Islamic flag in the window. Now, Muslims across the continent are afraid to go out in their religious attire, which is often required, depending on their particular beliefs.

It's a very reasonable fear, considering how pervasive and terrible Islamophobia is. They have a real chance of being physically attacked.

In a true act of allyship, non-Muslims in Australia have started using Twitter to offer to travel with Muslim individuals who don't feel safe going out in public alone. These people are offering to protect them should they be attacked for being Muslim because bigots have decided that all Muslim people are bad and deserve to suffer.

They started the hashtag #IllRideWithYou. It was specifically started by this woman:

From there, people started putting stickers on their bags and tweeting pictures of themselves with the hashtag so that nervous Muslim individuals could find them.

This is how you ally.

The Constant Hypocrisy of the U.S. Government


Earlier today, members of the Taliban attacked a school in Peshewar, Pakistan and killed over 140 people before the gunmen were taken out. Most of the people killed were schoolchildren.

My heart goes out to the families that have been torn apart. To parents and siblings whose grief I cannot possibly fathom.

But let us not reserve our hearts for families torn apart by Taliban militants. Remember that, though 132 dead children is awful beyond words, far more have been killed by the very government that "strongly condemns" this action by the group that created them in the first place.

Us. The U.S. The Taliban exists because of the U.S. government. And far beyond that, the U.S. government continuously and brazenly authorizes frequent drone strikes against countries like Pakistan. Over 2,400 dead over the past five years, most of them civilians, just from President Obama's drone program.

In Pakistan alone, TBIJ estimates, between 416 and 951 civilians, including 168 to 200 children, have been killed.

Your liberal president is responsible for the deaths of so many more people. Let your heart go out to their families as well. Don't just grieve for those killed by people that you can pretend are somehow different from the military leaders of your own country.

Dragons are Feminist Icons

I'm getting a lot of angry jealous messages from anti-feminists on Tumblr all mad about the fact that feminists claimed dragons as our icons, so I thought I would post a formal reminder on here.


Animated gif of a massive dragon with a glowing red mouth looming over falling statues of men, captioned "FEMINISM"

Monday, December 15, 2014

Gif of the Day

You've been hit by, you've been struck by, a SMOOTH CRIMINAL.

Fat Hatred Means Fat Hatred

Did you know that of all the issues I talk about on Tumblr, I get the most shit for talking about fat hatred and thin privilege?

Recently, I had someone insist that it couldn't be fat "hatred." Because people don't HATE fat individuals. They're just ignorant. They're just biased. They're not hateful people.

How much do you want to bet that this asshole hates fat people?

You could try to argue that racism and sexism and homophobia aren't based in hatred. You'd be wrong, because they are. But I say fat hatred rather than "fat bias" or whatever because I've seen the hatred on people's faces. Who here hasn't seen someone they know personally look at a fat person and make that face. That face full of disgust and disdain. Who hasn't heard someone say that fat people shouldn't wear a thing, especially fat women, because ew. I distinctly remember hearing close family members talk like this, say that fat women shouldn't wear belly shirts because who wants to see that fat, rolling out over their pants, exposed for all to see. It's disgusting. They are disgusting.

And what woman hasn't look upon herself in the mirror at felt that wave of self-loathing, because that fat. It's disgusting. We are disgusting. We hate ourselves.

People hate fat in and of itself. And because fat is a part of all of us (unless we're about to die of starvation). The more a person has (especially women), the more we therefore hate that person.

It's fat hatred. It's hatred of fat people. Everything about it is hateful. I don't like to soften language even if it would be somewhat reasonable to, but calling it anything but fat hatred would be a straight up lie.

Recommended Reading

The hashtag #BlackLivesMatter started with three black women, each of whom identifies as some form of LGBTQAP+. This is a good place to remind everybody that straight people are not allowed to use the q-word. It's not ours. Anyway, their names are Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors and Opal Tometi. You should read about their story and remember that we cishets are always ignoring the people who create the things we use, or just straight up stealing them, when they're not cishet.

But don't take it from me, because again it was a black non-straight person who said it.

A Herstory of the #BlackLivesMatter Movement

If you don't know where something originated from, it's probably because the creator was not very privileged at all.

Friday, December 12, 2014

Gif of the Day

This is so random in so many ways.

Look At This Awesome Thing: Red Lipstick

Appropriate response to men who tell women what they should and shouldn't do:

Animated gif of a cartoon dude saying "women shouldn't wear red lipstick" before a woman in a cape flies down to write "no one cares" on his face in red lipstick

Nobody cares what you think, guys.

This is #GamerGate

I know I said I wouldn't post about this anymore, but hilarious things keep happening.

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Flipping Off the Police is a White Privilege


Here's a handy article to send to your racist Facebook "friends" who try to say that any interaction between a cop and a black person would have been the same if the person had been white.

911 Caller: "There's a Caucasian Man with a Gun"... so naturally Police sit down with him and Talk.

He wasn't just carrying a gun, either.

Joseph Houseman, a 63-year-old white man who, back in May, stood with a rifle on a street in Kalamazoo, Michigan. When police arrived, he refused to identify himself, grabbed his crotch, flipped them the bird and cursed. They talked him down in an encounter that lasted 40 minutes. Houseman was not arrested. The next day, he got his gun back.

But sure, black people get shot by cops because they were being "disrespectful." And by "disrespectful," I guess they mean surrendering, following orders, and not being able to react to screaming officers in the half a second they have before they get shot and killed, because they're 12.

Seriously. We white people can walk around parks waving our guns at people and threatening to shoot, and police won't kill us. We can be as disrespectful as humanly possible to police, and they'll talk us down. We can literally go on a mass shooting and still be taken into custody alive.

White privilege is being able to do the most fucked up things imaginable and still have a reasonable chance of surviving the police encounter. How anyone can pretend this isn't about race is beyond me.

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Gif of the Day

Fuck yeah.

Afternoon Announcements

I actually slept in until noon today. That hasn't happened in awhile.

So a number of stressful things have happened that are making my insomnia problems worse than usual. I took the day off work and will probably not post anything today. Though I can't guarantee I won't see anything I can't resist posting.

In the meantime, look at this dog:

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of a cat playing with a banana, shielding it from a passing human, and hissing at another cat that tried to approach the banana

This is the best thing I've ever seen.

Featured Blog: Racists Getting Fired


There is now a whole Tumblr blog dedicated to seeking out people who make heinously racist statements online, figuring out where they work, and contacting their bosses about it to get them fired.

This might sound like it would take some kind of illegal hacking to figure out. You might also think that people couldn't possibly be saying things that are so racist that they would deserve to be fired.

You'd be wrong, though.

Tweet by @ThaddeusKasper with reply by @garbage_person
Google map showing racist tweeter's workplace, Fred Beans Nissan of Doylestown

[Tweet text: all dumb fucking niggers protesting, why don't you all get jobs #youruinthiscountry #lazyporchmonkeys

Response tweet: @ThaddeusKasper not a smart thing to write on a public forum when you're employed and not anonymous, just saying!]

It never fails to amaze me just how many people seem unaware of the fact that, unless you change your settings, Twitter accounts are public. Everyone can see your racist shit.

Don't tell them, though. I like seeing racists get fired. And a lot of them have been. Well done, Racists getting fired!

Recommended Reading

This is your irregularly scheduled reminder that intersecting marginalizations make things monumentally worse for people, yet those people tend to get ignored.

#BLACKLIVESMATTER only if you are male, heterosexual and able-bodied


I can’t count how many times people have told me that they didn’t know about the Black women and girls killed by the police but every single one of them knows about Eric, Mike, Trayvon, Tamir and Oscar. Oscar Grant had a movie made about him. Will there be a movie for Rekia or will you say hands up Renisha? 
Seeing the discrepancy I have to ask, why aren’t my sisters, my daughters and my mothers lives just as valuable as my brothers, my sons and my fathers lives? Why aren’t dead Black women and girls worth your collective outrage? How many of us have to die before you care?

And, from the same website, a list of black women and girls killed by police. Don't forget about them.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Homer Simpsons repeatedly headbutting a man's side who's trying to ignore him

"Some people are just jerks. Stop that, Mr. Simpson."

This is Going to Sound Like an Exaggeration

But it's not.

The Michigan House passed a bill that would make it legal for EMTs to refuse to treat dying patients because they're gay, or bisexual, or trans, or pansexual, etc. Because religion. Meaning because Christianity.

For example, under the Religious Freedom law, a pharmacist could refuse to fill a doctor's prescription for birth control, or HIV medication. An emergency room physician or EMT could refuse service to a gay person in need of immediate treatment. A school teacher could refuse to mentor the children of a same-sex couple, and a DMV clerk could refuse to give a driver's license to a person who is divorced. 


Morning Announcements

I have things to do today, might be able to post later. THINGS.

Monday, December 8, 2014

Gif of the Day

Animated gif of Alistair from Dragon Age: Origins doing a really provocative dance with a lot of crotch thrusting without a shirt on.

So I've been replaying Dragon Age: Origins lately and then suddenly on Tumblr.

How did this happen.

Do You Hear What I Hear?

Because what I hear is the sound of my uncontrollable laughter, which is so loud that I'm sure they can hear it in Australia.

And I say Australia because that is where Target and Kmart decided to take the video game Grand Theft Auto V off of their shelves due to its unapologetic and practically celebratory depictions of sexual violence against women.

Target and Kmart stores pulled the game after a petition launched by three female survivors of violence gained more than 40,000 signatures. 
Target said the decision "was in line with the majority view of customers". 
Some fans of the game accused the stores of censorship. 
The decision was made after three women set up a petition on urging Target to withdraw the game. 
"It's a game that encourages players to murder women for entertainment. The incentive is to commit sexual violence against women, then abuse or kill them to proceed or get 'health' points," the petition reads.

The extent to which this pissed off gamer dudes is hilarious enough. But then this happened.


Recommended Reading

I have to credit this moving piece for inspiring the piece I posted this morning. Fighting against oppression when you're the one who's oppressed carries so much more emotion than just simple anger. That anger is mixed with despair and depression and fear and grief.

Dear White People: Ferguson Protests are a Wake Not a Pep Rally

This piece was written by a black man whose name appears to be Aaron Goggans. Here's an excerpt:

Like Brittney Cooper said, “I am undone.” In these moments, when the despair feels like it’s ripping me apart, only the solidarity of other Black people gives me real solace. It’s the moments when a co-worker and I randomly catch each other’s eyes and we both see the pain, and the fear, and the exhaustion and one of us says “shits f%$” and we both laugh. We laugh because it’s all we can do. We laugh because sometimes the pain is too much to bear. We laugh because screaming might get us fired. We laugh so that we don’t cry.

The whole piece is amazing and essential reading for white people who want to be doing ally work over this issue.

Good News!

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American who helped craft Uganda’s ‘Kill the Gays’ bill to be tried for crimes against humanity

Yes, thank you, that is exactly the right thing to charge him for.

I'm generally against the death penalty but I'm open to the idea that there could be some exceptions. We could call it the "Kill Scott Lively" bill.

The Privilege of Objectivity and Denialism


I've been posting a lot about the issue of white cops killing black people lately, and mostly it's because it's extremely important and we need to talk about it NOW and make change happen RIGHT NOW because if we don't take action now, we'll settle for nothing later, in the words of Zack de la Rocha.

But it's also because it's easy. It's so easy. It's easy to read each and every article, every detail about these murders and the history of the murder of black people and how this goes back to lynchings. It's easy because I'm white, because I can distance myself, because that will never happen to me. That is white privilege.

But this is a feminist blog. Shouldn't I be spending more time advocating for women? And in truth, there are plenty of very important issues that I've neglected, because it's hard. It's just so hard. An amazing woman has started a movement of carrying mattresses around college campuses, and I can't write about it. And then there's the thing about the University of Virginia.

I feel like I need to read deeper into it before I write a piece about it. I need to read the details. I need to know what really happened. All I've read on it are some tweets, and two pieces on Shakesville about how people will cling to any excuse, will DEMAND excuses be provided for them, to believe that a victim is lying.

Animated gif of a chihuahua in a sweater scrambling to get under the couch with the caption "NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE"

But I don't want to read more. I don't. The very thought of what happened to this woman and the fact that every time something like this comes out into the open, a chorus of disbelievers descends to demonstrate how little people understand about how rape and rape culture work - it makes me feel sick. Literally. My stomach tightens. My chest feels heavy. My throat burns. My eyes blur. I feel a creeping sensation crawl up my neck and down my arms. I feel despair all throughout my body. The despair of desperately wanting to do something but knowing that I could muster up the most passionate and articulate and fact-laden plea and show it to all the world, scream it from the roof of the fucking White House with a bullhorn and nothing would change.

Because the doubters are deeply invested in their doubt. Facts don't change their minds. A million stories from a million survivors won't change their minds. They say they don't believe that anyone could be so cruel as to rape a woman to get into a frat house, or be so cruel as to dismiss and silence survivors who are their friends. They can't believe this would happen, yet when experts come forth to explain how this shit happens all the goddamn time, they're dismissed. There are people who know how rape culture works and just how cruel people can be, whether through experience or through extensive study and listening to the millions of stories. But when they step forward to say "yes, this does happen, a lot," they're dismissed because they're too "close" to the issue. They can't be objective. They're too emotional about it.

These doubters, these rape culture denialists, exist specifically because they're so distant from the issue. Anyone who listens to the stories and researches and reads the studies and becomes fully aware of rape culture will become emotional about it. Because it's deeply disturbing, it's mindbogglingly awful. The only way to be unemotional about it, which these fucking asshole denialists consider to be a prerequisite to achieving the mythical "objectivity," is to be ignorant about it.

This is male privilege. Women don't have the luxury of being completely ignorant of rape culture. We don't get to deny it exists. Because if we aren't aware that college campuses are full of rapists, we're a whole lot more likely to be raped.

But men get to remain entrenched in their ignorance, and anyone who knows what they're talking about and tries to educate them is dismissed as too emotional, not objective, not qualified to speak. They pretend that there's some person out there who can somehow be both qualified to speak on it and unemotional about it at the same time. They wait for this person who doesn't exist, and when that person doesn't show, they just assume that they have to go along with their ignorant opinions. They plod along in their fantasy world where friends of survivors who dismiss and discourage them from speaking up are too "cartoonishly" evil to exist. Those of us who know the truth seethe and cry and rage and despair, because how could you not? But because we aren't devoid of human emotion, we're not credible sources.

This, my good readers, is what I deal with. As a woman who is fully aware of rape culture, this is what I face. I face an impossible cycle of denial, where my disgust with rape culture will be used as an excuse to dismiss whatever I say, and every dismissal increases my disgust. And my despair.

I get asked why I don't be nicer, why I don't punctuate my writing with constant sources and write like an objective academic in order to convince men that what I'm saying is true. Men must be convinced to solve the problem, right? So why don't I speak to them, why don't I work to convert them?

Courtesy of Batty Mamzelle

Because it's very nearly impossible. I've tried. I've had online arguments that lasted for weeks, only to be dismissed time and time again no matter what source I provide because I'm just too emotional about it to be trusted. I've seen every excuse imaginable used to disbelieve the millions of survivor stories out there, to disbelieve in the scientific studies that I present, to disbelieve anything I say.

Because the fact is that people are not blank slates that will change their minds if presented with the right information, with facts and with truth. The men I've tried to convince are not objective themselves. They are deeply invested in their denial of rape culture, as are most people. Because rape culture is so fucked up, who wants to have to believe it exists?

Women are much easier to convince, because many of them have experienced it first hand. I don't need to convince survivors. But I can empower them. I can tell them that I believe them, that they have a right to be angry, that their feelings are valid, that they aren't bad for experiencing the results of their terrible trauma. I can convince women who know the constant threat of rape cultre to accept and channel their anger, to be glad for it, to reject the constant call for silence and to fight.

Animated gif of Dr. Cox from Scrubs repeatedly banging his head against the open section of the hospital desk
I know of two men whom I've convinced of rape culture's existence over all my time arguing, raging, writing and speaking about it. One is my boyfriend. Another is an unusually open-minded friend. That's all. And I know I only had a chance with them due to my closeness to them. Other male friends have become ex-friends, or just ignore me. Strangers don't listen. They don't. I can be as nice as possible, present as many scientific studies as can be found, I can be as calm and appear as objective as possible, and they still reject my words. But I've had multiple women thank me for putting what they feel into words, for waking them up, for giving them a voice, for making them feel like they can speak up.

So I focus on empowering women. It's the only thing that works. And the constant failures to convince men, even those close to me - that wears me down. Each failure sits heavy on me, not because I feel like I've failed, but because it's yet more proof that the vast majority of men are simply not willing to listen. They are so invested in their ignorance and denial, and every day so many women suffer for it. Why wouldn't I feel despair? What can I possibly say? I've tried everything. Everything. I don't know what to do anymore.

Except to empower women. If men won't listen, we'll band together and take what we need. We'll take our essential right to exist without fear of rape. We'll make it happen without you. Either get out of the way or prepare to be trampled.

I do feel a lot of despair a lot of the time. But what I feel more of is anger. That anger keeps me going. And I because of that, I will never stop. Never. If you refuse to accept reality, we will go around, over, or through you and tear down everything you know so that we can build it up right. And no, I don't care what you think about that.

Not sorry.